Melodius..It's A Word In Your Heart!

Yesterday started out as a beautiful day of prayer. Of course when I reached that point of being in His presence and truly enjoying my time with the Lord, the phone starts ringing and people start knocking at the door, but not before the Lord got to make a deposit in my heart. Graham Cooke talked about how God has already put His word in our hearts. When you accept Jesus as your personal Savior He is already inside of you. We keep thinking He is on the outside and we keep trying to get Him to come in. We need to start off by acknowledging Jesus is already in us waiting to express Himself outward from within. Those are my descriptions. Graham says it much more eloquently. (The Art of Brilliantly Thinking)

My life coach last week when talking with my son, expressed the same understanding, explaining to him the difference between the soul and the spirit. Why we can have the Spirit of God in us but still operate in our flesh and have strongholds in our emotions. She stated that the Lord has written His word on our hearts. That's why even people that do not want to acknowledge there is a God still know right from wrong. His word says..

Jeremiah 31:33

“I will put my law in their minds
and write it on their hearts.
I will be their God,
and they will be my people."

Hebrews 10:16
"This is the new covenant I will make with my people on that day, says the LORD: I will put my laws in their hearts, and I will write them on their minds."

These are just a couple. The point is His word is already alive in the earth. It already rest in the hearts of man. We just need to speak it forth. As I dwelt on this concept, His word is already written on our hearts, it became so beautiful to me. I began to make it my prayer over my husband. I began to thank and praise the Lord that His word was already in my husband. That it would now begin to spring forth and produce good fruit. The Holy Spirit would begin to bring it to life in my husband and that he would begin to align with it, understand it, and hunger for it, move with it. At some point as I became joyous with my praise I began to see an image of God opening His mouth and His words just began to flow into my husbands opened mouth. It flowed like a music bar just filling him. His words looked like dancing music notes. It was so melodius. I don't even know if that is a real word, but His word was flowing like a melody into my husband. I became so excited and started praising and shouting "Yes Lord! Sing into my husband! Sing over my husband! Let him become your delight! Make him full of your joy!! Fill him with your word with your praise!" (so on) I knew the Lord was in my husband now.

I then began to pray my favorite prayers and declarations such as my husband is led by the Spirit and does not fulfill the lust of the flesh. He is drawn to the Lord by His unfailing loving kindness. He walks the path of righteousness. He is surrounded by the presence of God who is in relentless pursuit of him and overwhelmed with His love, and so on. I pulled out my The Power Of A Praying Wife book and began to pray over his fatherhood, emotions, and attitude. When finished there I began to praise the Lord with Psalm 100:4

"Enter His gates with thanksgiving and His courts with praise; give thanks to Him and praise His name."

I found myself going back to this verse saying, "Lord, I am thankful to him, and I praise his name."

Then I caught myself and said Lord I'm sorry I didn't mean to ...and He stopped me. He let me know it's okay to be thankful to my husband. It's okay to praise him. He knows I was not praising my husband as a means of worship. He wants us to have that kind of attitude towards our spouses, regardless of how they are acting.(That is the sacrifice of praise!) He wants us to come before Him rejoicing over our spouses. That is what puts a smile on His face and allows Him to move and change the atmosphere around our situations and in their hearts, as well as our own. It was a joyous time!

Remember even Sarah called Abraham lord, and it was not considered disrespectful to God. It was the highest form of respect. Respect leads to love.

Ephesians 5:22

"Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord."

How do you love the Lord?

I texted my husband, " I am thankful to you! I praise your name...Mr....!"
He didn't respond, but that's okay. This journey is about learning to love unconditionally and without expectations. I almost hate saying it because then I'm tested on it. But I am being tested and trained anyways. It's just so hard! lol It's okay because I am learning to trust in the Lord completely. Do you understand what that means??? It means a more deeper intimacy with God. It means a more powerful you. A you that is unafraid, NOT LACKING ANYTHING!! It's okay to sow seeds of love without expectation. It doesn't make you less of a person. God will not allow love to take away from you. You always reap what you sow. Trust HIM!!! It helps me to personally look back and acknowledge all the times my husband said I love you and I never responded with the same words. I showed him by doing things for him, but I rarely said I love you to him. Now I know how he felt and I am sorry. I would say I am regretful but I was delivered from all that as of yesterday. Yes, I got to put myself in the judgement seat. It was a good experience and one to write about in the next blog.

Bless your spouse.

Jeremiah 31:3

“I have loved you with an everlasting love;
I have drawn you with loving-kindness."

Thank you Lord for loving (spouse/child/friend name) and loving them with an everlasting love. Thank you for drawing (spouse/child/friend name) with your unfailing loving kindness.

And His promise to you my love..
Jeremiah 31

4 I will build you up again
and you will be rebuilt...
Again you will take up your tambourines
and go out to dance with the joyful.

5 Again you will plant vineyards...
the farmers will plant them and enjoy their fruit.

12 They will come and shout for joy on the heights of Zion;
they will rejoice in the bounty of the Lord—
the grain, the new wine and the oil,
the young of the flocks and herds. (your finances, substance)
They will be like a well-watered garden,
and they will sorrow no more. (personalize this. I will sorrow no more)
13 Then maidens will dance and be glad,
young men and old as well.
I will turn their mourning into gladness;
I will give them comfort and joy instead of sorrow.
14 I will satisfy the priests with abundance,
and my people will be filled with my bounty,”
declares the Lord.

16 This is what the Lord says:

“Restrain your voice from weeping
and your eyes from tears,
for your work will be rewarded,”
declares the Lord.
“They will return from the land of the enemy.
17 So there is hope for your future,” declares the Lord.
“Your children(spouse) will return to their own land."

I Won't Shrink Back

I have come to realize that everything I have gone through this last year was to make me bolder, more courageous, refined in His love and word. He knew what it would take to get me to press in and move to the level that He needed me to be at. I am stronger than I have ever been. I realize now that all my years of rejection have left me oweing no man! I now appreciate it and understand that by oweing no one I can give myself completely to my God not fearing what man will say to me, or what they will do to me, or if they turn from me. His faithfulness to me has kept me solely relying on Him alone and my gratefullness to Him makes me want to do what He wants me to do, say what He wants me to say, and go where He wants me to go. Holding nothing of myself back from Him. Amazing how He turns a situation around and makes it worthy of praise!

The Lord has brought precious people into my life to help me during this time and they will have their reward. I know I would not have made it this far this quickly without their help, but He still gets the praise. He's the one that blesses me and provides for me. He's the one that strengthens me and comforts me. He guides me and He goades me. No one can take credit for what He has done for me and therefore I am under no obligation to any man. He was buying my total freedom from man. Now I am free to be just His, used for His good purposes alone! What an honor! And all this time I was boo-hooing feeling sorry for myself. Why couldn't He have just said so?? Lol I guess He has time and time again, I just couldn't figure it out. I would for a short time or so, but I think I got it this time, only because my passion for Him and His word have grown. I knew when the time came I would not be afraid. At the beginning of this year I didn't think so. I didn't even think I could carry on this path anymore, but when push came to shove my heart proved my allegiance. My God! My God! I surrender to you!

Many years ago I had visions of Jesus taking me into places of total devastation helping people and bringing them to know the Lord Jesus. I never contracted the diseases that they had. I was always protected and taking care of. At one point we stopped and I looked to the Lord Jesus, of course I could not see His face in my vision, but I asked Him with a humble heart, " Lord why did you choose me? Why do I have this privilege?" He answered, " It's not because I don't have many to choose from, just few that are willing to make the sacrifice." I never really understood this because I know my failures and I know I've never made the sacrifice, He did.

This year I realize I have made the sacrifice. I made the sacrifice to stand and obey when I wanted to run. I made the sacrifice to speak and share when I was ridiculed for believing in His word and promises above my circumstances. I made the sacrifice to accept His strength when I fell to my knees and wanted to give up. I made the sacrifice to accept His peace and comfort when I was shaken with fear and anxiety. I made the sacrifice when I accepted His righteousness as my own and applied His authority in my life and ruled when all others didn't think I was worthy or holy enough. He has made it so easy for me and you to obtain the victory if you want it. That is why I have what I have and I won't apologize, I won't be shamed by man. I know what HE has given to me. I know what HE has spoken to me. Through His word and Spirit, through the visions I have recieved, the prophecies spoken over me, and the answered prayers He brings forth to me. I know my purpose and that's what gives me confidence in what His will is for me.

He knows what I will do with all that He has given me. I will boast of Him. I will stand on the rooftops and shout praise to Him. I will be the mouthpiece when He wants to speak. I will be the arms when He wants to lend and comfort with love. I will be bold and laugh at the wicked and the enemy. I will be the warrior He uses to crush the enemy under His feet. I will give ALL that He has given me.

James 1:2-5
2 Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters,[a] whenever you face trials of many kinds, 3 because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. 4 Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything. 5 If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you.

James 1:12
12 Blessed is the one who perseveres under trial because, having stood the test, that person will receive the crown of life that the Lord has promised to those who love him.

James 1:22
22 Do not merely listen to the word, and so deceive yourselves. Do what it says. 23 Anyone who listens to the word but does not do what it says is like someone who looks at his face in a mirror 24 and, after looking at himself, goes away and immediately forgets what he looks like. 25 But whoever looks intently into the perfect law that gives freedom, and continues in it—not forgetting what they have heard, but doing it—they will be blessed in what they do.


Hebrews 10:35-38

35 So do not throw away your confidence; it will be richly rewarded.

36 You need to persevere so that when you have done the will of God, you will receive what he has promised. 37 For,“In just a little while, He who is coming will come and will not delay.”

38 “But my righteous one will live by faith.
And I take no pleasure
in the one who shrinks back.”


That is why I know He is pleased with me. I don't shrink back. That's why I have ALL that I ask for. I don't shrink back. I press in until I have ALL that He says I have. This is why I don't shrink back....that my faith be proven and pleasing to the one I love!

1 Peter 1:6-9
6 In all this you greatly rejoice, though now for a little while you may have had to suffer grief in all kinds of trials. 7 These have come so that the proven genuineness of your faith—of greater worth than gold, which perishes even though refined by fire—may result in praise, glory and honor when Jesus Christ is revealed. 8 Though you have not seen Him, you love Him; and even though you do not see Him now, you believe in Him and are filled with an inexpressible and glorious joy, 9 for you are receiving the end result of your faith, the salvation of your souls.

I had a vision right before Thanksgiving. I was upset in regards to my husband innocently being a little flirtatious with someone, but after all that we have been through this last year it wasn't without reason. He used a pet name that he uses with me and I became possessive over it. When it's all you got, you embrace it! A part of me wanted to know if I was in the wrong and the other part wanted the enemy crushed for good! I said Lord your word says you crushed the enemy under your foot, I want him crushed! Something has a hold on my faith in this area and I want it crushed!! I kept repeating this pressing in letting it build my faith until I began to see an image of Jesus wrestling with a dragon. Soon the dragon was chained and held back. The Lord then spoke to me and said," is that enough?" I said, "no!" The Lord said, " But he is chained up away from you." I said, "No Lord, you said you crushed the head of the enemy and put him under foot. I want his head crushed!! I do not want to go through this again!" Then I saw a big lizard like a komodo dragon chained up. The Lord then asked, "Is this enough?" I said, " No Lord, it could grow back into the dragon. I don't want it coming back. I want it's head crushed! Crush it's head!!" Then I saw a cute little and innocent looking lizard in the palm of the Lord's hand. He asked, " and what about now?" I could not see His face, but I could see Him in all His grandeur with this little creature in the palm of His hand, and I thought but it's so cute and little, and innocent. But I still knew, it could grow back into the dragon and I am playing for keeps. I want to win and not lose, so I said to the Lord, " crush it's head." At this point the image became almost like a cartoon as the Lord took just His fingertip and squashed the head of lizard. It was kind of hilarious, but I knew in my spirit that is what the Lord was looking for. I felt a release of my faith, something break in the spirit. He wanted me to go all the way. He wanted me to see the enemy not as a dragon but as something so minoot compared to God. He wanted me to see how sin can start out as something so small and seeming so innocent, but needs to be crushed before it can grow into the dragon, and be willing to still crush it's head. I have learned it's best not to play with it (sin or the enemy) at all or let yourself be enticed by it even just a little bit. It's much easier to crush it when it's little. Yes, I believe the Lord was pleased with me after this. When I came home things were a lot better with my husband and I am continuing to press in. I won't shrink back.

Psalm 18:32
It is God who arms me with strength, and makes my way perfect. He makes my feet like the feet of deer, and sets me on high places. He teaches my hands to make war, so that my arms can bend a bow of bronze … I have pursued my enemies and overtaken them; neither did I turn back again till they were destroyed, I have wounded them, so that they were not able to rise; they have fallen under my feet. For You have armed me with strength for the battle; you have subdued under me those who rose up against me.”

Genesis 3:15
"..and He will crush your head" NIV

Romans 16:20
The God of peace will soon crush Satan under your feet.
The grace of our Lord Jesus be with you.

When A Stander Says MERRY CHRISTMAS!

M - Marriage was created and ordained by God. It is a covenant between you, your spouse and God.
E - Jesus Christ was born to save the lost and give them eternal life.
R - Your Lord wants to restore, rebuild and resurrect your hurting or dead marriage for God to get all the glory, honor and praise.
R - Let God become your refuge and your rock who will rescue your beloved spouse from the enemy’s camp.
Y - You cannot change your spouse's heart, but God can.

C - Christ was born in a manger and died on the cross at Calvary for you, your spouse and your family's sins.
H - The Holy Spirit wants to be your Comforter, Counselor, Provider and Friend every day of your life and especially right now.
R - Resist the enemy. Resist giving up on your husband or wife as you stand with God for marriage restoration.
I - Ignore all the tricks, schemes and circumstances that come from the enemy, Satan. Keep your eyes on your Lord Jesus every day.
S - Stand firm on the promises of God. He will never fail you!
T - Trust in the Lord for your life and your marriage restoration. His timetable will be perfect!
M - When you married your spouse, never forget your wedding vows. You are no longer two, but one flesh with a covenant with God.
A - Do not allow anger, adultery or alcohol or any other sins of the flesh to destroy your marriage. Pray for the Lord to transform you and your spouse's heart completely.
S - Scriptures -God's Holy Word. Start reading and memorizing God's Word to change you and then transform your spouse's hardened heart.
Please continue to be faithful and pray for your beloved spouse and all prodigal spouses and children. Ask the Lord today to bless you and your family during the Christmas holidays with a special gift from Him. Start thanking the Lord every day for what He is doing on the other side of your mountain.
Be blessed,

Charlyne Steinkamp
Rejoice Marriage Ministries, Inc.
rejoiceministries.org

There Is No Other

Im still bouncing around tonight on the inside. I just keep getting revelation after revelation! I love it when God speaks to my spirit! I wish He would speak directly to me about the things Ive been asking for a word on, but He would rather work on laying brick for my new foundation. I comply with reason because I know it is in my best interest and the best interest of others that I might have to share with.

First let me back track a little. I wrote in my last blog Starting to "Get It" about transitioning into praise regarding your husband. I forgot to mention an important part. I knew I was forgetting something, but couldn't remember at the time what I had wanted to share with you. That particular evening after I progressed into an atmosphere of praise I began to tell the Lord that I knew and could feel there was still something holding on to my husband. It wasn't the same evil spirit that I had been dealing with directly, it was something else, probably more to do with the soulish realm, the part of his will. Something holding on, something of influence not wanting to let go. I know it has to let go, why isn't it breaking? At that point the Lord started walking me back through the steps. He asked me, "what did you do to get rid of the other one?" Well, I was just praising you and proclaiming that you were God, and there is no other; You are God; and there is none like you. That Your purpose will stand, and you will do all that you please. Isaiah 46. " And before that?" I commanded that at the name of Jesus it (the enemy and my husband) had to bow and confess that Jesus Christ is Lord and Savior! Oh ya! That's it! Ha...The enemy hates that verse and it hates hearing the blood of Jesus applied. It's the sword that pierces it and it flees every time! So I went into command mode and started throwing out some karate chops. Take that spirit! Ha..how does that one feel? Bow! Ya! You've got to bow and confess that JESUS is Lord and Savior! In between I'm giving thanks to the Lord and we had a grand ol time. Im not making light of the situation. You have to get bold! You have to understand it truly pleases God to see you using and applying the weapons of warfare that He has given us. We can do it joyfully! That's what He wants! To see His sacrifice was not in vain. Make the enemy regret coming around messing with you and what is yours. Make sure he thinks twice before coming back around again. Remember the covenant Deuteronomy 28:7 “The LORD will cause your enemies who rise against you to be defeated before you. They shall come out against you one way and flee before you seven ways." This is part of the blood covenant God Himself has given to His children. When this battle first began, this was one of the first verses I came out swinging with. I am a woman of covenant. I am a woman of authority and I will see my enemies flee before me in seven ways!

Which leads me to today. Kind of a different topic but same principal. Yesterday my son attended a deliverance meeting with my life coach where he could go back through the generation and confess the iniquities of his parents and ancestors and release or break all the generational curses. My son looked at the list of sins that we were aware of and proclaimed " we did all that?" Yes, it's sad isn't it? " That's a lot." Yes it is, which is why the blessing of the Lord is hindered and each generation is worse than the one before, and each generation has a harder time in life, because no one is repenting.

Exodus 34:7

7 I lavish unfailing love to a thousand generations.
I forgive iniquity, rebellion, and sin.
But I do not excuse the guilty.
I lay the sins of the parents upon their children and grandchildren;
the entire family is affected—
even children in the third and fourth generations.”

2 Chronicles 7:14

14 if my people, who are called by my name, will humble themselves and pray and seek my face and turn from their wicked ways, then will I hear from heaven and will forgive their sin and will heal their land.


So as I told you before, the Lord promised me now that " The oppressor will come to an end, and destruction will cease; the aggressor will vanish from the land (my land)." Isaiah 16:4 That is His purpose for the deliverance of our family right now. That includes no more divorce, no more destruction of any kind, including poverty or sickness. One of the promises and verses that is proclaimed during the deliverance process is that " ...A curse without cause shall not alight." Proverbs 26:2. This verse is coming up in a lot of lessons right now, so I know it is God moving to get everyone this revelation. For me, I had to really think about it and dwell on what it meant. First thing waking up this morning the Holy Spirit kept speaking this verse to my spirit. All morning long it pressed upon my mind and heart. I kind of pushed it aside and went shopping hoping to find some really good sales because we are really short on cash without me working right now, and I currently have no presents for my children. But we are at peace. If this is what Christmas is to be this year we are joyful. We held hands in prayer in front of the Christmas tree the other night just thanking the Lord that we have a roof over our heads, we have food, clothes, and electric. We have two nice vehicles and all the bills are paid. The greater gift is that my husband is still in the home. My children still have their dad. We have seen a mighty move of God this year in our lives, we have seen His faithfulness and love. We are more than satisfied. Again I share this with you because someone else needs to know the truth that they are not alone in their experience. The Lord has provided for us to spend Christmas with some of our family so my children will still get to enjoy gifts and others have already taken them shopping or sent gifts, they are not without. Just keep in mind, this may be the last Christmas we all get to experience in the this traditional manner, which is another reason I am trying to remain humble. Especially for us Christians, also another topic we will discuss soon. But back to this morning; I was getting kind of agitated. I said, Lord! This is not right! You promised me I would have no more seasons of lack! I've given to the church, I gave to my friends that needed help recently and I can't even provide a single gift to my children. Im not asking for much. I just wanted a jacket for me and my son, a gift or two for the kids, from us." ...A curse without cause shall not alight." Proverbs 26:2. Came to my spirit again. Okay Lord. You have been bringing this verse to my spirit all morning. Obviously there is something in it. What do you want me to do with it? "Apply it, press into it," He says.

" ...A curse without cause shall not alight." Proverbs 26:2. What does that mean? It means a curse without a legal claim cannot come to pass. What removes the legal right or claim to a curse? The blood of Jesus!! He has washed all our sins away. He has washed or removed all legal claims or (as I love) historical rights to any curse. Hence, the need to pray the prayer of forgiveness regarding the past sins of all our fathers and forefathers and ancestors. We call it the prayer of the Inquities of the Father, and another one is the Breaking of Curses, removing the legal right and historical claims. Which is why I love the verse Nehemiah 2:20

20 I answered them by saying, “The God of heaven will give us success. We his servants will start rebuilding, but as for you, you have no share in Jerusalem or any claim or historic right to it.”

When I first saw the above verse posted on a blog Spiritually Unequal Marriage, I snatched it up quickly and made it my own...I thank you Lord for giving me success in the rebuilding of my marriage and family! Thank you for giving the enemy no share! No claim! No historic right to my marriage!!! In The Name of Jesus! Hallelujah!

I pressed into the verse Proverbs 26:2 by thanking the Lord Jesus for washing away our sins leaving nothing for the curse to hold onto. I reminded Him of the prayers both my son and I had prayed asking for the forgiveness of the sins of our forefathers so that now there was NO LEGAL CLAIM, NO HISTORIC RIGHT for any curse to alight (or hold onto) . I put the blood of Jesus between us and the curse, between my marriage and the curse of divorce, etc. I put the blood of Jesus between my finances and the curse of poverty! Poverty is not God's will! Just so you know. :) But again the Lord then took me back to;

Philippians 2:10-11
10 that at the name of Jesus every knee should bow,
in heaven and on earth and under the earth,
11 and every tongue confess that Jesus Christ is Lord,
to the glory of God the Father.

OH YA! You know what I did here. I called curse out by name and commanded it to bow!
Curse, you must bow and confess that Jesus IS Lord and Savior!!

Because my faith muscle has been exercised in this area over this last year it didn't take much for me to feel it break. NOW faith was in operation. God is good! I can't wait to see what comes about because of our new found deliverance. Total Restoration!

3 John 1

2 Beloved, I wish above all things that you may prosper and be in health, even as your soul prospers.

Romans 14:11

“‘As surely as I live,’ says the Lord,
‘every knee will bow before me;
every tongue will confess to God.'

Isaiah 45:21-23

For there is no other God but me,
a righteous God and Savior.
There is none but me.
22 Let all the world look to me for salvation!
For I am God; there is no other.
23 I have sworn by my own name;
I have spoken the truth,
and I will never go back on my word:
Every knee will bend to me,
and every tongue will confess allegiance to me.”

I Am Starting To "Get It"

I meant to write about this a few days ago but I have been so busy and always wondering if writing these blogs is the right thing to do. Besides the things going on in the relationship realm I was also let go from my job for the first time ever in October and been kind of struggling in that area too, but the Lord has been providing. Even more now I have felt the need to be completely honest about myself and my struggles because it IS helping someone else. Someone else is going through similar stuff, someone else has felt, thought, or acted the same way. The difference is how we deal with it. Some of us turn to the Lord and keep pressing in until we have the victory. We need to share with others how it is done. Dr Juanita Bynaum said you can't pick up someone else if you have never fallen yourself. So true! Life is a journey of lessons! I think I am realizing now what those lessons are to be about. These lessons are not about developing yourself into the perfect person or having the perfect American dream. There is no such thing as perfection in our lifetime. Lol. This really has helped me to relax...a little. :) Our main goal is to learn to develop a relationship with Jesus and prove that God really is who He says He is, and that His word is true. How can that happen if we never fall? He has to be the one to pick us up so we can go and shout and proclaim "Look what the Lord has done for me!!" His power is perfected in our weakness. If you were strong all the time you would never see the real power of God. I can honestly say now I would not want that to happen. Seeing the real power of God is a tremendous honor. He is so amazing and He does things that just boggle your mind. In a crazy way you look back and almost wish to go through it again just to see His hand again. I feel for those people who have not yet understood the power in waiting on the Lord, allowing the test and trial to work on their character. They can't look forward with anticipation of the next good thing the Lord is going to do, and they can't look back without feeling the paining sting of every hurtful memory. It doesn't have to hurt anymore. It is a daily step by step walk in progress. Learning and trusting the Lord everyday. Something I realized from my dad a few days ago, it's okay to go at your own pace, the important thing is if you fall down that you get back up and you take another step. You keep reaching for the Lord.

Another lesson I'm learning during this journey is dealing with those negative thoughts and emotions. My understanding is increasing everyday. God wants us to have the mind of Christ, that includes how and what we think about others. The other day thoughts of my husbands actions came to mind and I started to think of him in not so good of terms. I started to get angry as I began to dwell on them I then stopped myself. I know this is a tactic of the enemy now to persuade me to open those doors. I realized later after thoughts came to mind from the lessons of Grahame Cooke talking about one's identity and thinking from the RIGHT starting place (The Art of Brilliantly Thinking), tucking them away isn't necessarily the right thing to do either. We have to act on them, do what God's says to do with them or they will keep coming back. So first, I went to the Lord and repented. Lord, you said to cast down EVERY thought that tries to exalt against the true knowledge of God. Please forgive me of those things I was thinking towards my husband. Those thoughts I was thinking about him were not true, those are not YOUR thoughts. That is not how YOU see him. That is not his TRUE identity in You. (This is where you start confessing God's word over your spouse and speak those things that are not, as though they are, so God can begin to line things up). You said he is a new creation in You. He has put off the old corrupted man and is living as a new man in Christ. He is bound to the mind of Christ and the purposes of Your heart. You have given him a new identity, one that honors you, for he is becoming the mirror image of Christ from glory to glory. (You just keep speaking God's word over him and this is where you begin to transition into praise. Thank the Lord for the husband you see him as and for the Lords goodness. Think and praise the Lord for all His good benefits and all the things you are believing Him for. As you keep going in praise you suddenly find yourself in mountain moving worship of the Lord God Almighty!)

This is what is pleasing to the Lord. This is where change occurs because of obedience and praise to the Lord. I can finally say I am starting to "get it".

Love Me To and Fro

Tonight he came home from work. I kissed him good morning. :) I made him a plate of dinner and he sat in his usual spot at the computer. I wished for a hug, for him to hold me just for a few moments but I let it go. I'm learning to let go, trusting that the Lord is working in him even though I can't see Him molding him and aligning things up in him. And it's okay tonight. I feel the strength of the Lord generating from His love. He told me again tonight He loved me in His word. "For the eyes of the LORD run to and fro throughout the whole earth, to shew himself strong in the behalf of them whose heart is perfect toward him." 2 Chronicles 16:9. It was this time last year my husband started acting weird towards me. Accusing me of talking to other men, coming home talking about how another woman didn't want him, and when asked later if he was talking to another woman he denied it. When asked what was wrong, because a wife of 17 yrs you know when something is different in your man even though he isn't talking, and his response was "nothing". So you ask again because you know better and he says "nothing". Then you state I know something is and his response is "That's it! I'm leaving! I don't know when, but I'm leaving!" Of course you are left bewildered and frustrated and wondering what did you do wrong even though deep down you know it's not you, just some kind of excuse for his own short comings, it still breaks you down. It was this time last year he started talking about a girl that was let go from his work. "For the eyes of the LORD run to and fro throughout the whole earth, to shew himself strong in the behalf of them whose heart is perfect toward him." 2 Chronicles 16:9. My loving God was keeping His promise, His covenant to me, a daughter of covenant. I didn't know what was going on but God did. His eyes were going to fro because He loved me. He had already removed her from my husbands presence. A month later I found out what was going on and the Lord answered my prayer and let it be revealed to me where my husband met her. She was the one he had talked about that was let go from work and supposedly no one knew quite why. The first thought that came to my mind was this verse "For the eyes of the LORD run to and fro throughout the whole earth, to shew himself strong in the behalf of them whose heart is perfect toward him." 2 Chronicles 16:9. During the later months when I was scared and asking the Lord to remove her He reminded me that He already did and not to be afraid because He was in control. The Lord loved me. He kept His word to me. So tonight I love Him all the more. Wanting to give more. I spent time this morning fasting and praying for my husband. Then I started praising the Lord because I know He has good purposes for our marriage. He has brought us this far. I started to declare His word in faith, then I got deeper into worship of Him. I struggled with trust this week in regards to my husband. I finally broke down one day and said Lord this is driving me mentally crazy! I can't go on like this! I know I'm not trusting you, please help me to get my eyes off of him and back on YOU. So this morning I could worship the Lord in love and tell Him because of His word I can trust my husband because I am trusting YOU! I am trusting You to put the love, honor, faithfulness, and integrity in my husband that You purposed. I trust the Holy Spirit is working to deliver my husband and bring truth and change to his heart. I trust You Lord that You will do all that You said You will do! I trust in your love for me! I love You Lord Jesus!

Later my neighbor asked me to come over. It's the first time we have had a real talk. She was telling me about her relationship and trying to figure out what to do. As I began to share with her from my heart she started crying. She exclaimed, " This is amazing! I saw you! I saw what you were going through at the beginning of the year. ( Yes I was kind of puzzled at this point). I saw how devastated you were and how brokenhearted you were and now you are sitting here witnessing to me! How can you sit here smiling and talking about love with all that you have been going through?? Never-mind I know, it's God! But how? It doesn't make sense! You are an amazing woman!" In my mind I'm thinking ahhh..this is what it's all about. This is the testimony God wants people to see. It has nothing to do with me or my words. She personally saw what I was going through and because I chose to stick things out and obey God in His way, it was a testimony that spoke louder than anything that I could have said. My actions and words lined up with Gods word, and caused her to be able to see the truth in it. Of course I could not take any of the credit. I've wronged my husband in the past. So I shared with her all that the Lord had brought me through and what His word says about love. It isn't going to be easy, but if you persevere in His promises you get what you are asking and believing for. She ask, "but what do you do when your needs are not being met?" My response is you go to the Lord and trust Him to meet all your needs. Seek Him for fulfillment first, take your expectations to Him, not your man, and pray for your significant other, then the Lord will move in him. She sees me smiling, talking with hope and love, and now she is motivated to do the same. Now I'm understanding more of His ways. He could have left me by the wayside when I sinned but He didn't. He loved me unconditionally...He loved me in this... "For the eyes of the LORD run to and fro throughout the whole earth, to shew himself strong in the behalf of them whose heart is perfect toward him." 2 Chronicles 16:9. He could have ignored my prayers and let my husband wander off with the other woman but He didn't. He forgave me of my sins and helped me to do the same for my husband, because I trusted in His love for me.

Tonight another friend made a comment. How do you ever trust again when something like that happens? You can't, and if there isn't any trust, how can you have a relationship? You can't. She's right. I thought back to this morning and I thought God, I am so glad I have you, I can trust in YOU. I trust you and I love you. I trust you are rebuilding my marriage from the ground up. You are laying a new foundation. You are rebuilding that which was devastated and destroyed. You are fortifying and inhabiting that which was lying in ruins. Ezekiel 36:26. Yup, you can't rebuild on the old stuff, that's why God is in the business of renewal. I am all His. And if tomorrow I find everything has crumbled I will keep loving and trusting in Him. In the meantime I trust He is restoring love in my husbands heart for me. One day he will be affectionate towards me. He will hold me. Why? Because God is working in his heart to be a man that loves me they way Jesus loves the church. I declare that my husband loves me with the love that Jesus loves me with. A love that is faithful, unconditional, a love that is filled with integrity and honor, and a love that is self sacrificing. I know God will put good treasures in my husbands heart for me and our children. I can rest in the Lords love tonight, placing all my expectations on Him and not my husband, because Jesus loves me and is working things out in my husband for me. Yes..Yes..Yes... "For the eyes of the LORD run to and fro throughout the whole earth, to shew himself strong in the behalf of them whose heart is perfect toward him." 2 Chronicles 16:9.

No more playing defense! I'm going dragon slaying!!

Yesterday was another amazing session of deliverance and healing. The purpose of these meetings is to go back to a place of extreme emotion. It can be hurt, anger, fear, any of these negative emotions can act as a doorway for the enemy to manipulate and use as a tool of deception. Through memory we access these feelings in the heart and ask Jesus to come in and tell us the truth about the situation and to heal it. Remember the bible says perfect love cast out all fear. It casts out a whole lot more! When you have Jesus filling up that place of pain it no longer hurts, you can look back and still feel whole, unafraid.

One particular memory I stepped back into was one concerning my youngest brother who was less than two years old at the time. It was a horrible memory of me coming home from church and walking into a situation involving my step dad. It wasn't as bad as it could have been, but it was still a horrible scene. I'm sure you can guess what it is about. In this moment I froze, I didn't know what to do. Confusion set in. I was a child who was trying to protect myself from abuse at home with my mother and thought I had found refuge living with my stepfather that was always loving and protecting of us. I made the decision to leave this incident alone and figured I could protect my baby brother by never leaving him alone when he came to visit in the future. ( Later I did stand up to my stepfather and I did report him to the authorities when I found out the truth about other kids involved and I realized I could not protect myself, my sister, or any other child from this evil man.)

Moving forward....My life coach and I asked Jesus to show me the truth about how He felt about me in this situation. Was it my fault? Should I feel guilty? Ashamed? Was there anything I could have done? The Lord's response was that I was not to feel guilty or carry the shame. It was not my sin and He did not hold it against me. The Lord spoke this directly to me as He moved into my heart to heal the pain with His comforting touch and remove the shame. My life coach also stated to me that I was a child, this circumstance was bigger than me. I had never thought of that and it meant a lot to me to hear someone else say it.

The next step was to see that Jesus was there in the situation. It was hard to find Him this time. When my Life Coach asked me if I saw Jesus there my reply was no, but I could sense the heavenly host in the room surrounding it, but there was something in the middle I could not see. I had opened my eyes to explain to her what I was seeing at this moment. She told me to close my eyes again and ask Jesus to show me what was going on. As I sought the Lord for His response I saw an angel pushing back a beast like two strong men hand to hand. At the same time I felt the Lord saying He was there, He was holding back the enemy, He would not let the enemy have the victory over my brother!! As you can imagine, it was that moment that the floodgates opened. My heart poured out every tear, every emotion tied to that memory and relief in the truth that Jesus was there, fighting to protect my brother from the enemy. Keeping His word that He will never leave us or forsake us! My brother could have suffered a greater atrocity at the hand of the enemy and I know many have. I don't have the answers as to why, but I know the truth that in every situation Jesus was there in one way or another, and He can and will bring healing if you allow Him to.

This new tidbit of truth has empowered me again and brought more confidence and more strength to me. It's just amazing to see how the enemy uses situations to tear at every piece of our soul trying to make us powerless, empty, broken, feeling unloved, and forgotten. None of those things are true! We are so precious to God, He loves us so much that He has given us everything in this world, all dominion over the enemy. That is why the enemy hates us so much and tries to bring defeat upon us. He knows the truth. He is afraid and even jealous of what YOU can do with it.

Psalms 8:1-9

O LORD, our Lord, how majestic is your name in all the earth! You have set your glory above the heavens. 2 From the lips of children and infants you have ordained praise because of your enemies, to silence the foe and the avenger. 3 When I consider your heavens, the work of your fingers, the moon and the stars, which you have set in place, 4 what is man that you are mindful of him, the son of man that you care for him? 5 You made him a little lower than the heavenly beings and crowned him with glory and honor. 6 You made him ruler over the works of your hands; you put everything under his feet: 7 all flocks and herds, and the beasts of the field, 8 the birds of the air, and the fish of the sea, all that swim the paths of the seas. 9 O LORD, our Lord, how majestic is your name in all the earth!

Revelation 12:13

13 When the dragon saw that he had been hurled to the earth, he pursued the woman who had given birth to the male child. 14 The woman was given the two wings of a great eagle, so that she might fly to the place prepared for her in the wilderness, where she would be taken care of for a time, times and half a time, out of the serpent’s reach. 15 Then from his mouth the serpent spewed water like a river, to overtake the woman and sweep her away with the torrent. 16 But the earth helped the woman by opening its mouth and swallowing the river that the dragon had spewed out of his mouth. 17 Then the dragon was enraged at the woman and went off to wage war against the rest of her offspring—those who keep God’s commands and hold fast their testimony about Jesus.

It's not God attacking you! He meant what He said, "For we are not fighting against flesh-and-blood enemies, but against evil rulers and authorities of the unseen world, against mighty powers in this dark world, and against evil spirits in the heavenly places." Ephesians 6:12

This is why we can no longer be ignorant of Satan's devices! We must learn not to accept his lies or emotions as our own. If they don't line up with the fruit of the Spirit which are love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control(Galations 5:22-23) then we can know whatever the situation, whatever the thought, whatever the feeling is not from God our Father! He is better than that! He has better for you! You have to accept His love and love. Accept His forgiveness and forgive. Give Him your every hurt, give Him your anger, let Him replace the fear with peace. Overcome the enemy by allowing God to be greater than all your pain and fear. Prove God is true and give His glory not to another and see what He will do for you.

I am raging right now! No more playing defense! I'm going dragon slaying!!

Please allow God to enter your heart and situation by submitting your emotions to Him. Ask Jesus to forgive you of your sins, ask Jesus to forgive you for accepting the lies of the enemy as your own. Let Him heal you, let Him lead you into His truth and all the blessings He has for you. He won't just take it from you, you have to give it to Him and then learn to cast down every thought and every emotion that tries to exalt itself against the truth and knowledge of God. If you write me I will pray with you. Keep seeking His truth and find someone that will pray with you. God Bless you in the Mighty Name of Jesus!

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Blessing Your Husband, #6 Sweet Aroma

Back to basics. Before I continue on any further, I feel there are a couple of things the Lord wants me to address. The first is being salvation. There is no greater gift or more important purpose of a believing wife than to seek the salvation of her husband. It can become an excellent journey for you, because as you seek the Lord on your husbands behalf, the more you will learn how to let go of your "control" and let God. The closer you will come to the Lord as you learn to trust HIM for everything, especially that of your spouse. You will find your purposed beauty and suddenly your husband will discover this deep inner beauty in you as well. Guess, what? Nothing can compare to it!

Many a times the Lord brought this verse up to me, "13 And if a woman has a husband who is not a believer and he is willing to live with her, she must not divorce him. 14 For the unbelieving husband has been sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife has been sanctified through her believing husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy." 1 Corinthians 7:13-14. I did not always understand the importance of this verse until now. I just knew that I had to be obedient to it so many times when I wanted to give up and walk away, but now that I have held onto it and obeyed it, God has begun to bless my obedience to His word. Corinthians 7:16 goes on to say that, " How do you know, wife, whether you will save your husband? Or, how do you know, husband, whether you will save your wife?" (P.s here. If your unbelieving spouse doesn't want to line up with God's word he will eventually leave. The light cannot comprehend the dark and the Lord will not make you continue in your sacrifice without some kind of reward, so remain obedient and the Lord will work it out to your favor without judgement against you ) What greater gift can we help give a loved one than to obtain eternal life and all the love and blessings the Lord has to offer? What greater gift can you give to God but to allow Him to use you as a tool to captivate the one that His heart longs for? We've all been called to this kind of ministry. Once again, our sacrifice to unconditional love and obedience will always lead to great rewards. I know it can be hard to separate our need as a wife sometimes to love our husbands as a brother, but we must. Do as the bible says and win him over with your behavior and not your words. There are so many things that this command ties into and we will address, but let me try to keep this short and simple for now. I think I will follow up with a video later.

"Wives, be submissive to your husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they maybe won over without words by the behavior of their wives, when they see the purity and reverence of your lives." 1 Peter 3:1-2.

I know, you say but you don't understand, I don't have anything to submit to, he won't take his place and do what he should be doing, or I don't have anything to respect, or I am the submissive wife. First of all there is always something to submit to, you are just going to have to shut up and do it, find something to submit to for now. I don't care if he says you don't need those red vines, put them back. I'm not kidding. I know some of you are going to go irate about this but I am telling you this is how to work things out God's way. I've done it the other way, I did it my way and the worlds way and I was losing. There is a balance and that balance has to be in trusting God at His EVERY word. I was the disrespectful wife. I didn't see myself as being disrespectful though, but to God's standards I was. My actions, my behavior, my lack of respect and love caused my husbands heart to turn hard towards God. I caused my husband to connect every blessing we ever received during our marriage to something negative. He can't even enjoy the good things that came from the Lord because of the bad memories he has connected them to. That is horrible! As a Christian woman there was nothing more horrendous than standing in the way of the cross! I felt utterly ashamed with that realization, but that is what we are doing when we don't respect and honor our husbands the way we have been commanded to. Thank God He promised me new joy and new memories! Now I know why. You have to obey and give God time to work. Again, you must keep in mind there is a great reward. God saying well done, instead of the shame that comes from giving an account to what you could have done and didn't do, because nobody was "going to tell you". You have to fight it through in prayer, not by trying to change or save your husband yourself. I am not speaking to the women that are being sexually or physically abused. There is a balance and you must seek safety for you and /or your children. Keep praying for your husband and being obedient to the Lord and you will get your testimony.

During this journey, the one where my husband said he didn't love me anymore, he was no longer attracted to me, you know, the one that brought me to my knees in devastation saying Lord, why should I continue holding on? How will he ever love me again? How can I make him attracted to me again? The Lord took me back to 1 Peter 3:1-7. "Your beauty should not come from outward adornment...Instead, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God's sight." Did you catch that? A gentle and quiet spirit is what men and God equate to beautiful. Not a nagging outraged wife. It continues, " For this is the way the holy women of the past who put their HOPE IN GOD used to make themselves beautiful. They were submissive to their own husbands. Respecting, loving, honoring your husbands is a BIG DEAL! It ties into so many areas of your life, their life, your children's life, God's purpose and command! If you follow these you earn the right to be called the daughter of Sarah. I will discuss the honor that follows this later. An honor that causes God to move on your husband and remove other women (men) from their lives on your behalf! Hallelujah!

"The love of God in a woman who is fully committed to Christ is irresistible. You won't need to say a word to your man. Your loving actions will speak volumes!" ~ Winning Him Without Words, Lynn Donovan & Dineen Miller

How beautiful! God has given me another chance to show my husband the cross. To prove that God is who He says He is. To allow God to bring healing and change through salvation to my husband by letting Him heal and change me through the gift of salvation. I have never been so thankful! I believed, but never truly realized the extent of God's grace and mercy or the power of His salvation till now. None of us are good without it. None of us can love without it. I want to love, I want to be loved. I want God in the end to say "job well done!" I want the blessing reigning in our lives and I want to see my husband walking out his salvation.I want my husband to see Christ in me. I want to be the sweet aroma of Christ to both God the Father and my husband. I want to smell good!! lol

Let's pray....

Lord, teach me the kind of obedience You are calling me to in my marriage. Help me to be the aroma of Christ to my spouse. Be my strength in the midst of whatever life brings. In the holy and blessed name of Jesus Christ, Amen. ~ Winning Him Without Words, Lynn Donovan & Dineen Miller

Jesus you said that you are the way, the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me. Thank you for sending the Holy Spirit to my husband to show him that you are the way, the truth, and the life. Thank you Holy Spirit for helping my husband to accept Jesus as his Savior and make Him Lord of his life! In the name of Jesus I pray, Amen. John 14:6

Lord Jesus, forgive me if I have been a stumbling block in my spouse's salvation experience. I turn over my will to Your capable hands and I will trust You to save my spouse in Your time and in a way that brings You honor.

Pour a fresh anointing of the Holy Spirit into me each morning to empower me to live my faith authentically before my spouse. Reveal to me the truth of 1 Peter 3:1 and how my words can bring healing or how they can hinder. Let me learn to love my husband with Your love. Let him find Your love irresistible. Remind me daily that You are relentlessly pursuing my spouse and will never give up. Teach me to pray effectively for my spouse, asking for salvation and protection from evil. I ask in the life changing name of Jesus, Amen. ~ Winning Him Without Words, Lynn Donovan & Dineen Miller

"let us go right into the presence of God with sincere hearts fully trusting him. For our guilty consciences have been sprinkled with Christ's blood to make us clean, and our bodies have been washed with pure water." Hebrews 10:22
Father, I thank You my husband has a heart to draw near to You, and as he does, You draw near to him. Give him the things that are necessary for his life when he submits himself to you in prayer.(A Wife's Prayer, Pamela Hines)

Thank you Father for allowing my husband to come close to You. Help him lay aside the sin and weights of this world and seek Your face in prayer daily. You said You would forgive his sin and heal the land if he humbles himself and prays. Heal the land of my husband's life, my life, and the land of our marriage. Psalm 109:4, Hebrews 12:1, 2 Chronicles 7:14.

Romans 15:13
13 May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit.

I pray now that You, the God of all hope, will fill my husband with faith and hope by the power of the Holy Spirit. (The Power To Change Your Marriage, Stormie Omartian)

2 Thessalonians 3:5
5 May the Lord direct your hearts into God’s love and Christ’s perseverance.

I pray you would direct his heart into the love of God and into the patience of Christ. (The Power To Change Your Marriage, Stormie Omartian)

To be continued.....

God's going to do HIM!

Make Me Your Bride

Later I passed by, and when I looked at you and saw that you were old enough for love, I spread the corner of my garment over you and covered your nakedness. I gave you my solemn oath and entered into a covenant with you, delcares the Sovereign Lord, and you became mine.
Ezekiel 16:8

Now that's a love letter. Just melted my heart and sent warmth down into the depths of my belly. Talk to me, talk to me some more, the passionate lover of my soul!

Constipated Christians!

Just real quick, talking about mandates. You know I was given a mandate this year to be strong and courageous and lead God's people into the promised land. I have started to focus on this more and more and the thought came to mind, of course I won't be able to cross into the promised land unless you are with me. That's just the way it works. So come on people and get with me on this! I want to move on into something better already. In my mind the image came across of people behind me pushing me into it instead me pulling them. Kind of chuckled at that notion then something went ding! That's just it! It goes back to the idea of blessing and promoting your leaders before you can experience the blessing and promotion. Not trying to call myself your leader, but I have been mandated to lead others on. Which leads me to the phrase I heard Rodney Howard Browne use,constipated Christians. You can't PROCEED because you are waiting on a MOVEMENT from the Lord. That cracks me up everytime I think of it! Truth is God is waiting on you. Are you with me or not? Let's get moving!!

Raw Emotion

Hello Folks. I said I was going to spend the month of November blessing my husband each day and sharing those with you. Yes, I most definately pray exactly what I am writing and then some. Even if you don't read them it reinforces things in me and blesses me, so it's all good. ;) I knew when I set out to do this I would become a target of spiritual attack. I have been under heavy artillery since January. I had to pray for reinforcements or I would not have been able to make it this far. The Lord is faithful. As you should know by now, I am a very active participant in the spiritual world. I, apparently am a very powerful participant which is why I am under attack so heavily, the enemy for one is scared, two he is losing more and more ground everyday. He doesn't like losing and does whatever he can to re-obtain the ground he lost. I feel compelled to share with you the things I have been battling especially the last couple of days.

Of course things would become more and more of a distraction in my life to keep me from writing about God's work in my life and His word, which is why I started to fall behind in my postings and then completely lose it the other day. Yes, I almost had a break down at the attempts of the enemy yesterday, but a call and prayer with my life coach helped me to get a grip and strength, and direction to help get focused. The bible says that there is power when two or more pray in agreement, that Jesus is in our presence. I am human and the struggle and battle went deep. I needed help and I am not ashamed to admit or share that in hopes it helps someone else. Without telling you too many details right now of the cause, let me just explain what happened. I have been fighting for my marriage like never before as you know if you have been following me on Facebook. During this time I have increased in my knowledge of the enemies tactics.I have been gaining ground in my marriage, self, and inheritance in my bloodline through Jesus victorously! The war isn't over yet, but it's not necessarily just about my marriage. The bible says in John 10:10 The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy. Over the years he hasn't been able to conquer me through myself or other attempts, so he decided to beef up his attempts by attacking me through my husband. By trying to remove him from the home again. Hell, all soldiers of combat know military strategy 101. Take off the head, the body will fall. Take the spiritual leader and head of the family's blessing from the home, they suffer all forms of spiritual and emotional devastation, poverty instead of God's prosperity, and lack of protection are the greatest disfigurations of this kind of warfare. I have heard this is supposed to be the year of blessing over the children, mainly daughters, so Satan is attacking families to destroy the children as well. Especially the daughters. They are so much more susceptle to the lack of a father's protection. This is not just about me, this is about my children, and my grandchildren. I can't stop the fight for their sakes!

The second reason for the attack as I stated in a previous blog is to steal the word and the seeds that have been planted in me. My time of harvest has come and it's huge! Enormous! More than I could have ever thought or imagined.The enemy knows more about my call during this time than I do and he is scared! I have to allow myself to be disclipened by this testing.I am being promoted to the next level. Jesus said in the rest of John 10:10 "I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full." He says James 1:12 "God blesses those who patiently endure testing and temptation. Afterward they will receive the crown of life that God has promised to those who love him." I am enduring this testing and trying of my faith because He is working a completely new foundation in me that is bringing about new life as He promised me last October 31, 2011. New life, new joy, new memories. Things that my eyes have never seen, things that my ears have never heard, things that my mind could never conceive. Only I didn't know what it was going to take to get there, nor did I think I would be caught off guard the way I was, or that the enemy would use my husband the way he did. What better weapon than someone that knows me intimately, someone I trusted more than anyone and trusted to meet my insecurities, someone's insecurities and weaknesses I trusted in (that's a good one, see how the Lord works? He knew my heart, and He wanted to refine it, because that wasn't right either. We are to trust only in God, find fullment in Him first! Have NO other God's before me He says!). As a woman and wife everything my husbands says to me goes straight to the heart and it embeds in my very essence of being a woman. My smile, that I had always been complimented on and became my trade mark and learned to use as a blessing, my age and body of course, my personality, my sacrifices as a wife and mother, you name it he attacked it. He took my very confidence in a way that I had never experienced before. Did God warn me ahead of time? Yes, He knew what was coming, I didn't listen because I wasn't staying completely plugged in. He told me more than once to fireproof my marriage, get the walls built up. (Sure Lord, I will...Ill start working on that more...tomorrow...the next day..) He then showed me in a vision (read my blog,Sound The Alarm and my dream analysis about this house on FB. Had I only understood what it was revealing to come!)to keep my eyes on Him. Solely on Him. He would become my confidence and the battle was His. God is always in control. He allows things to happen to teach us, to allow us that freedom of choice, to push us into the next level of understanding and blessings! I have learned through this how subtly the enemy can deceive us into thinking and feeling and accepting his choices as our own. Through this I have been learning how to overcome the enemy in new ways and greater levels. God is faithful to His word. He said if we endure the trials we will be lacking in nothing and will have the reward of life and more life! I am no longer lacking certain wisdoms. I am increasing in spiritual power through knowledge. I am gaining the freedoms that I was promised in His word and inheritance and these things bring about my new life!

Believe it or not, it took the enemy a long time to get things into exact position to attack the way he did. He doesn't have the power of God to just make things happen or to read our thoughts, he has to wait and watch our behaviour and feed us thoughts and lies after lies and negative emotions and line people and things up just right. I began to learn along time ago that the battlefield begins in the mind. I began to accept God's word into my mind and believe only in His word, which is what helped save me in the beginning of this battle. Because I know that God is His word!! If you get His word, you get Him! There is no separation of the two. I first knew I could trust God to help as He always promised.I knew anything not inline with God's word was of the enemy. The bible says we do not wage war against flesh and blood but against princes and principalities. Principalites work through our personalities. I knew the things my husband was saying did not all come from him because somethings he said attacked the desires I had been harboring in my heart, certain desires I had not expressed to my husband, he would not have known. Then came physical evil manifestations, not only to me but to my daughter. That's when I started becoming more bold. You don't mess with a momma bears' cubs! Of course during this time I am learning and God has brought me more people to pray with and be supported by and I begin to see some breakthrough, positive changes in my husband.

In the beginning I could not do much. I was paralyzed by fear. All I could do was hold onto small words and a scripture or two. One of the scriptures I first held onto was Psalms 25:3 "No one who hopes in you will ever be put to shame." I knew God said that whatever I trusted in Him would be done, whatever I asked for. Now I was being tested on that. I shook uncontrollably for months. I couldn't eat, I couldn't sleep. I had to call different prayer lines throughout the day just to keep sane enough to make it through work. Everyday, he said and did things to me that were beyond me. I held on to the promises of God. I fell down, He picked me up several times. One time my husband said something so horrible to me that I could only picture my hand holding onto the foot of Jesus. All I could say in my mind is I am holding onto You Father. Over and over. I couldn't let my heart grow cold. I had to survive this God's way to win. I had to forgive. I had to endure. Another time I lay there shaking uncontrolable and I felt the Holy Spirit move through me saying "He is faithful. He is faithful." I held onto those words. I knew who I was in Christ and I knew who He was to me. Now, He gave me this promise, Isaiah 16:4 "The oppressor will come to an end, and destruction will cease; the aggressor will vanish from the land(my land meaning my home, my family)" Halelujah!! This is when my marriage started going through deliverance. That very next day I started going through deliverance of the strongholds that had been in me for so long, such as anger and anxiety. Now I am learning who Christ is exactly in me.

Like I said, I have learned how the enemy works through our minds and gains control of our emotions. I have become keen to the attacks on my mind now. It doesn't take me as long to figure out the thoughts that come across are not my own. Monday I was being attacked with thoughts against my husband. During my second deliverance meeting I had participated in something called a judgement seat. I had to vision myself and my husband being opposites in a courtroom. God the Father as the judge and Jesus was standing behind my husband. I was allowed to confront my husband with all that I held against him in my heart of pain. Jesus just kept his hand on my husbands back as he sat there. Then I was told that this court was illegal. I had no right to hold anything or to judge my husband in anyway. Only God could do that. At this time I had to forgive him on all the accounts I brought up against him. After that, I was asked what I wanted to happen. I walked over and kneeled before him because I could feel my error, I could feel his pain. I didn't seek vengenance I just wanted his pain to be gone. I didn't want him to hurt anymore, that hurt kept him from loving and receiving God's love.I wanted him to feel loved. I learned during my journey that hurting people hurt people. That is why it is so important to forgive, people also act out when they feel a lack of fulfillment, they need to seek the right kind of fulfillment, and we can help them find it. At this point I see and sense Jesus pouring love into him and then my husband is standing next to Jesus, with a smile and Jesus' arm around him. You have to understand, Jesus is a loving and ever present being.

Oh, yes, back to Monday, I was being bombarded with thoughts against my husband, I just kept saying no, I forgave him of that in the name of Jesus, and then another one would come. After the fourth one it stopped. I snickered to myself. Haha, I beat the enemy this time. Then Tuesday came and something my husband did really got to me because it showed me the corrupted him was still in operation. Fear started settling in because my feelings were hurt, but I tried to put them before the Lord. When we came home he retreated to his computer and I secluded to prayer in my room. Lord spoke to me and told me to go give him a kiss goodnight and say I love you. Really Lord? He replied don't wait and allow the enemy to put distance between you because of your emotions remember. Don't give him any weapons to use. You reap what you sow. Go sow some love. So I did. Surprisingly as I turned to leave he got up and hugged me. That's all I wanted and much more than what has been going on. I went to bed in peace. Wednesday morning came, I felt led to fast. I felt some distance in my husband and wondered why again. He left and I could feel the onslaught of emotions. I began to dwell on the things that had happened that night and the things that have been going on. I knew this was dangerous, but because I was so hurt the enemy used that as an open door, I couldn't fight it off and soon it had over taken my emotions causing me to feel great pain, bringing up more memories to dwell on, and then I started searching for more truth and found things that haven't yet been confirmed but lead to more suspicion and confusion, so my mind and heart went crazy trying to figure it all out and piece things together, which caused me to sink further into raw emotions of hurt, fear, confusion, jealousy, inferiority,and unfairness. These can be called demons. It can be there identities. They still have to bow to the name of Jesus. I was supposed to meet my coach that day and of course the maintenance guy and such started showing up so I couldn't meet with her. Another tactic of the enemy. Didn't want me getting to someone that could help me, so I got her on the phone. We discussed what I was feeling, my actions, the consequences that could happen from my actions,(because I was acting out of the flesh and operating out of the will of the enemy and not trusting in God. That's where the accountability lies, and most people don't understand this right now, but the enemy does.) Of course we prayed together and after hanging up I prayed the prayer of war fare calling each of those things out by name and putting the blood of Jesus between me and them. There is so much power in the blood of Jesus. The enemy has no power, no authority. He likes to trick people and that is all he can do. That's how he operates. We have to stay plugged into God to be able to operate in His wisdom, and knowledge, and love. We can be so easily blinded and influenced if we don't. There are so many more details I will have to break down and share piece by piece. So I am doing better and will continue in my quest until I have fully obtained all success.

Blessing Your Husband Day 5, Image Is Everything

I was listening to a testimony from a man that I cannot remember his name or the title of his book, but he talked about having an addiction to pornography for 9 years. He prayed and church pastors and members prayed for him and nothing seemed to help break his addiction, until he was finally able to receive a new understanding of his identity from God. He learned he, as a man was purposed to protect women, not lust after them. I found that to be some key information as I sought more knowledge and wisdom about a mans self image. Like I said, I could not remember his name or title of the book but I found some very important key points and examples in the Power of the Praying Wife by Stormie Omartian.

She writes, " How your husband see's himself as a man greatly affects your marriage and your lives together. You, as his wife, can play an enormous role in how your husband see's himself, because your prayers have great influence and power in his life. We women have no idea of the influence and effect we have on our husbands. Our rejection of them in any way can hurt them deeply and even ultimately beat them down. On the other hand, our open and gentle acceptance of them can encourage them to rise up and feel confident. As a wife, you may be feeling that you would certainly like the same kind of support from your husband that you are giving to him, but even if your husband doesn't pray for you in the same way- and many do not, so do not feel alone- God will reward you for your faithfulness to pray for him. Not only will you see answers to your prayers, but you will also sense a greater closeness with the Lord." ~ The Power of a Praying Wife, Stormie Omartian.

I have to say that men can be just as sensitive as women if not more. Be careful what you say to them and how you approach them. One, they do have a tendency to misconstrue our attempts to help them and comfort them. This is why it is so important to learn how to perceive and communicate with each other through patience and the willingness to forgive quickly. I had said some things to my husband over the years in anger and hurt, even jokingly. Some things were just references to the jokes and comments that were being made by himself. I had NO IDEA how deep he had buried those things in his heart and was allowing them to affect his own self image and confidence. He never told me how he felt. He just kept it inside and one day....POW! Blindsided with the truth of a hardness in his heart that had developed. I was shocked. I was more shocked that he refused my apologies. That's what happens with a hardness of heart. We take something into our hearts and let it sit there instead of handling it the right way and over time it turns us hard. We will discuss more of that topic later. I still asked my husband for forgiveness whether or not he would, because I truly was remorseful and because that is what the Lord ask us to do. If we have wronged someone we should ask for them forgiveness. It was another eye opener of how sensitive my husband was. That made me want to protect him more. It also showed me how strong he was because even though he held onto this hurt, he never treated me unkindly, until the enemy used it as weapon against me these many years later. That is also why its so important to reaffirm them with positive words, loving kindness, and prayer. You never know what is building up inside of them or how the enemy will use those things as weapons against you, don't give the enemy any tools. You have the opportunity to determine what bricks you are going to build up your husband with. That's what I am trying to get you to understand. We have been given a great power and opportunity regarding our husbands and even children.

Let's take 1 Corinthians 3:12-15 seriously;

12 If anyone builds on this foundation using gold, silver, costly stones, wood, hay or straw, 13 their work will be shown for what it is, because the Day will bring it to light. It will be revealed with fire, and the fire will test the quality of each person’s work. 14 If what has been built survives, the builder will receive a reward. 15 If it is burned up, the builder will suffer loss but yet will be saved—even though only as one escaping through the flames.

This verse causes us to take accountability for what we use to build up or tear down. The word of God gives us many instructions regarding the use of our words because words, spoken in faith, have the power of life and death. He has commanded us to choose life and speak with love and blessings. Let's bless the self image of our spouses. :))

Father, I ask you to reveal to my husband that "he is the image and glory of God" (1 Corinthians 11:7). and he is "complete in Him, who is the head of all principality and power." (Colossians 2:10). Give him the peace and security of knowing that he is accepted, not rejected by You. Free him from the self-focus and self-consciousness that can imprison his soul. Help my husband to find his identity in You. Help him to see his worth through your eyes. Enable him to see who You really are so he'll know who he really is. May his true self image be the image of Christ on his soul. Make my husband to be the man you created him to be. In Jesus' name I pray. Amen!

I am standing on this promise 2 Corinthians 3:18;

18 But we all, with unveiled face, beholding as in a mirror the glory of the Lord, are being transformed into the same image from glory to glory, just as by the Spirit of the Lord.

I pray it with thanksgiving saying...Thank you Lord that my husband is being transformed into the mirror image of Jesus, from glory to glory! Amen

(Think of it this way, if he becomes the image of God then he will love you like God! And His word says it can be done! We are created IN...HIS..IMAGE!)

How bout these..

I Declare my husband is predestined by the Father to be conformed to the image of His Son Jesus! Romans 8:29

My husband has put off the old man with his deeds, and has put on the new man who is renewed in knowledge according to the image of Him who ceated him. Colossians 3:9,10

Arise, shine, for your light has come! And the glory of the Lord is risen upon you.
Isaiah60:1

Blessing Your Husband Day 4, Who's Your DADDY?

I become more proud of my husband everyday as a father. I admit I was one that was always complaining about him not doing enough for his kids, not spending enough time with them, not disciplining them enough, not teaching them to respect me enough, not sacrificing enough. As I turned to the Lord in prayer asking Him to make my husband a better father, He started doing just that. He started teaching me that I needed to respect my husband and trust the Lord to operate through him, even when I didn't agree with my husbands ways. As I began respecting my husband as head of the house and his leadership, and submitting to his authority over my (I mean our) children, he started taking more of a leadership role. I don't have to yell, plead, or criticize. I just needed to allow him the room he needed to operate as himself, allow God to raise him up as a father, using the talents that was already provided in him. And yes, they differ from me. I am the aggressor, my husband is more passive, but for many years I have been out of line and out of order with the ways of the Lord. As He began to teach me and help me to correct myself, it has enabled Him to teach and correct my husband, as well as my children.

To give you an example, I often at times disciplined my children by yelling at them, that usually escalated to worse scenarios because then my husband would get upset with me because I am yelling and he thinks I am acting out of control. Now my blood pressure is rising and I am feeling disrespected and fearful that I am not controlling my children the way a parent should, and now their is a complete break down of communication and an atmosphere of strife and brokenness in the hearts and spirits of everyone involved. Besides the fact my husband and children have always had very quiet and gentle spirits and any yelling just tears them up. Me too when I am on the otherside. And yes, part of my tactics were learned behaviors and the fact that I didn't really want to follow through with disciplining them, so I would yell at them, demand, and threaten in attempts to motivate them into the outcome I wanted. Didn't always get my desired results, and usually ended up with them having less respect for me. Then I would just be mad and yelling at my husband, afterall, it's all his fault. Wrong! I have learned that I am not in control, I am not the one responsible for all the discipline, or the outcome. God is! Yup, it's His problem. I just needed to submit and follow His word and pray for my husband to be the kind of father GOD purposed him to be.

As I let go, I see my husband step up more and more to the plate. He is learning by trial and error just like we all do, but I see more and more of his strengths. See, he is more calm and patient, he approaches my children with a more gentle and comforting approach. He is a comforter and now that I understand that, I let him be. I cannot force him to be me, like I had tried in the past, and I thank God now that I can see that. I didn't want to be that kind of me.I can't believe that was me. Always hollering, complaining, nagging, and tearing my family down instead of building them up. Honestly I am broken hearted that I caused so much devastation in my family. But Jesus is the God of restoration and healing! He will teach us truth when we are willing to listen and obey and be blessed! Through my prayer and submission to God, my husband is now seeing the things I have had to deal with. At first he was like WHOA! Of course he wanted me to jump in, but I learned it was not my place and said no, this is for you to handle. My job is to support him, respect him, and acknowledge him. These teens are his to handle no matter what the outcome is. You know what. Its working. He is developing his strengths and talents and establishing order in our home God's way. He is teaching our children to respect me more, and there is much less strife in our household. I still have to remind them that mom still and will establish her authority too sometimes, but its not like it was, and I know when to turn to my husband now as well, and let him take over. Everyone is connecting more and smiling, it's becoming a safe environment, where everyone can be themselves. That's the way its supposed to be, but it had to start with praying and obeying DAD ( the Heavenly Father) and respecting and blessing our earthly father.

It just makes my flood gates want to pour open with thanksgiving to the Lord for what He has done, and its so much easier! It's not perfect,yet, but I will keep obeying my Lord and learning what I can to obtain more wisdom, I will keep praying for my husband so that he will be drawn more to the Lord and gain more understanding and wisdom. We are finally on the right path and it breaks my heart that so many homes are not able to operate in Gods purpose for family, because they don't know His word or how to. I have learned that the majority of fathers have a great desire to be a present and good father, a good provider. Being a failure as a father and provider is one of men's biggest fears. Stormie Omartian writes in The Power of a Praying Wife that the thoughts of failure and inadequacy are what cause so many fathers to give up, leave, become overbearing from trying too hard, or develop a passive attitude and fade into the background of their children's lives. (Sound like anyone you know? Can you say having a complaining, nagging, overbearing, angry wife, or one that pushes the father away causes the same issues to arise? We need to ask God to open our eyes to see their gifts and talents as well and accept them, affirm them as the fathers that they are. Be aware, men won't tell you this is what they are feeling either. They need to know that they are needed and important too!) Know our prayers can help redeem these situations as well.

"If they are tortured with doubt and burdened with a sense of responsibility, we can minimize these feelings with our prayers.Prayer can help them gain a clear perspective of what it means to be a good father, and open the door to Holy Spirit guidance on how to handle the parenting challenges" ~ Stormie Omaritian

Another fact is that men can be hurt by and become the molds of their own fathers. We can pray that God will help them to heal from the hurt of their fathers and draw them into spending more time in His presence, so they will learn to imitate Him and be healed of any misconceptions of what being a loving and involved father really is. Remember as wives, we have the power through prayer to pray changes into them and declare those things that are not in them to come into existence. I, for one, feel that my husband is still not as involved with me or his children as I feel is needed. Besides praying scripture I will continue to declare the opposite until I see the desired results manifesting (taking effect) in his being. I have finally begun to see suttle changes more and more, such as, I declare my husband is interested, affirming, verbally communicative, and involved with me and his children. I try to encourage and reward him as much as I can notice now so he will continue in these attributes. If I haven't affirmed him in a day or so I ask the Lord to open my eyes and show me what I am missing or what I can be appreciative of, or how can I bless him?

There is a really good prayer of healing and guidance for fatherhood in The Power of a Praying Wife but I would like to share these other prayers as I feel they are a little more direct about him being a father.

Let me just say too, that I am extremely thankful that my children's father is still in the home. That in itself is a miracle of God after everything that we have done to each other and been through, but that is the power and grace of God. TO HIM BE THE GLORY AND ALL PRAISE! I am also thankful that he has always been an excellent provider for me and my children. I did grow up without my dad in the home so I do know what its like. I refuse to accept that for my children. I DECLARE there will be no separation or legacy of divorce left to our children. I am breaking that generational curse right now! My children will live in the blessing and prosperity of the Lord! If you are a single mother reading this (or father) please know that you are not husbandless and your children are not fatherless. Turn to the Lord as He said He will be your husband and He will be the father of your children. Isaiah 54:13 says "All your sons (daughters) will be taught by the Lord, and great will be your children's peace!" Take hold of the promise and claim it! Speak it over your children and when they disrespect you and disobey you, go back to His word and promise and take your children to Him in prayer! Trust me, my kids know enough now that I threatened them just the other day to take them before the Lord. They were being so disrespectful and I had enough. I wasn't going to react in my old ways, and when I told them that, they shut up and changed their attitudes real quick. 2 Corinthians also says " I will be a Father to you, and you shall be MY sons and daughters, says the LORD ALMIGHTY!" You are not an orphan! Take hope! Malachi 4:6 says "He will turn the hearts of the fathers to their children, and the hearts of the children to their fathers.." Hold onto this one and don't let go of it! Keep confessing it with all your heart!

Now lets pray for our husbands;

Father, give my husband the grace to rule our house well, and teach our children submission with all dignity. I pray he submits himself to You and loves me as Christ loved the church. I thank You my husband rejoices in the wife of his youth and is still pleased to dwell with me and me alone! 1 Timothy 3:4, Ephesians 5:25, Proverbs 5:18 (A Wife's Prayer)

Thank You for Your favor on my husband's life because we are joined together. Give him wisdom to prioritize our lives and position him to be a wonderful provider.
Proverbs 18:22, 1 Timothy 5:8 (A Wife's Prayer)

Thank You that my husband is slow to speak and swift to hear what You are saying to him concerning our marriage and our children. Give his heart the desire to teach our children to love You and Your Word. I pray he creates a desire in the heart of our children to walk in Your ways. Keep him from those things that draw him away from You, things that produce death in families. James 1:19, Genesis 18:19, James 1:14

Thank You that my husband will not provoke our children to anger, but he tutors and trains them in the way they should go. I thank You my children will honor and respect him because he is a man of God. Ephesians 6:2,4 (Your children will be blessed for honoring their mother and father. Remember even if it doesn't reflect reality, you are praying the desired result.)

Thank You that my husband keeps his life submitted to the word of God and to prayer so he always has wisdom to lead our family. I pray he honors You for the hedge of protection You have placed around our lives. James 4:7, Job 1:10

I pray my children will see their father is a man of integrity who walks in righteousness in all that he does. Thank You that he is a strong example before our children, and for the sweet presence of Your Spirit who dwells in our home because of my husband's life. Thank You that my husband has taken his place as the priest of our home. 1 Kings 9:4, Timothy 4:12, Acts 2:2

Lord, my husband has been given the responsibility of training our children. Help him not to withhold correction when they need it. Give him wisdom in applying the rod of discipline. Thank You that when he disciplines them, he is rescuing their lives from hell. Your wisdom is necessary to raise our children. He will invest solid wisdom in their lives so our hearts can rejoice and we can make You glad, Father. Help us to train our children to use their mouths to speak what is right. Proverbs 23

You have granted wisdom in his fatherhood and blessed us in health, strength, submission, and obedience. The children and I are a delight to him and bring him praise and no burdens. Teach my husband to lead our household. May he sit with our children and teach them Your Word and Your ways as he lives and exemplary life, one that our children will honor, admire, and follow after. (A Wife's Prayer~ Pamela Hines)

Lord show my husband your ways and teach him your paths so that he can be a good husband and father. Guide my husband in your truth and teach him, for I know you desire to be his God and Savior. Psalm 25:4-5

Almost forgot this important one:

Lord, I pray for protection over my children and over our marriage. I invite You right now to build and establish our house, our family, and our marriage. I DECLARE that we will never be divided or torn apart. Give me and my husband great wisdom and revelation about how to raise our children. Help us to talk things through and be in complete unity, especially in the area of discipline and privileges. Let no issues of child rearing change his heart toward me or undermine our relationship. Give him wisdom and revelation about all aspects of child rearing and help him to be a great father to our children. In Jesus' name I pray.

There is so much more to this prayer. Please get the book for all the testimonies, guidance, and other prayers. The Power Of Prayer and the Deeper Issues of Marriage, Stormie Omartian

This is such an important topic. Fathers are more important and have a greater impact than they realize. Its time to wake up, stand up, and lift them up!

Blessing Your Husband, Day 3 Got Nuttin But Love For You Baby!

One version of scripture Proverbs 19:22 says "What a man desires is unfailing love." Only God's love is unfailing. We can bless our husbands by telling them of God's love, even quoting Jeremiah 31:3 "I have loved you with an everlasting love; I have drawn you with loving kindness." I like to make it a prayer of thanksgiving. "Thank you Lord for loving my husband with an everlasting love and drawing him unto Yourself with loving kindness." This prayer is important because a man cannot love if he doesn't know or accept love from God. He won't be able to love God, love himself, or love his wife. I love what Greg Smalley has to say about love. He states love is not chemistry and love cannot be generated."In reality, there is no love that comes from us. We are not the originators. God is. 1 John 4:7-8 says that love comes for God and love is God. In verse 19 it goes on to say that we love because God first loved us. The point is that I do not generate a single drop of love. It all comes from God. By receiving God, I receive His love. I can then open my heart and share it with others. Love feels good to me, but I am just passing it through from God to others. By making a conscious decision, I can pass love through to my spouse. It helps the process if I see her as God sees her." Or in our case, as God sees him (valuable and precious.)He goes on to say that if a heart is closed to God, it will be closed to their spouse.
(www.smalleymarriage.com)

John 15:13 says, "There is no greater love than to lay down one's life for one's friends." We will substitute the word friend for spouse here (even though they should be our friend as well). God put it on my heart that He wanted me to lay down my life for my husband. That meant all my hurt, my pride, my desires, expectations, etc...you name it! I believe and have discovered many other women have been called and are doing the same thing. Love is a sacrifice, and it hurts, but it's not without a reward because LOVE IS GOD! A man wants unfailing love, that means a love that is unconditional, forgiving, a love that always protects!(quite complaining and gossiping to your friends and family!)(guilty as charged on that one. :( A love that always trusts (and is trustworthy!). (and that one), always hopes, and always perseveres. (I got those down!) Let God fill your heart with love and good treasures for your husband. Remember love never fails. Love always conquers! Because....Love..Is...God!

Keep in mind if you pray for yourself and not him, you will never find the blessings and fulfillment you want. What happens to him happens to you, and you can't get around it. ~ Stormie Omartian ( The Power of a Praying Wife)

Let's love him through prayer:

Oh, Father, today let me just love him. Pour Your love into me in such a powerful and complete way that I am just bursting with You. Teach me how to pour Your love out over my husband. Father I ask You to place Yourself before my husband today. Lord please surround him and place men of God in His path that will love him, encourage him, support him, and be an example of You to him. Overwhelm him with your unfailing love. Let him see reminders that You are in relentless pursuit of him and that your passion for him will never fade. Lord, I ask You to surround him with You. Fill his morning, noon, and night with your presence. In The Name Of Jesus, Amen(Winning Him Without Words ~ Lynn Donovan and Dineen Miller)


Thank You for strengthening me to be available to my husband in order to meet his needs, and for binding us together in love. Because You have poured Your love into my husband, he loves me as you love the church. As an act of my will, I will submit to my husband and reciprocate Your perfect love toward him. Father, I thank You that I am my husband's gift from You. I love him and he loves me. The love we have for each other is Your love. This love is unconditional, it is faithful, it is loyal, filled with integrity and honor. It is self sacrificing. (This prayer you will want to keep praying and confessing daily until you see Gods power bringing it to pass in your marriage) Thank you for delivering him from worry, stress, and fear, and filling all the voids in his life with your love, power, purpose, and divine direction.

Thank You for delighting him and delighting in him, I pray You will do something phenomenal for him. Do it, Father, in a way so he knows it was only You. Thank You for touching him and allowing him to experience You in a real and living way.

Father, Your word instructs me to love my husband and, through my prayer, I manifest that love. You made me a wise woman. Therefore I build my house through prayer and thank You for helping me to maintain a strong foundation in You for my household. After You, my first concern is my husband and how I may please him. Thank you for continually drawing him near to Your heart. In Jesus' name, Amen.
(A Wife's Prayer ~ Pamela Hines)