I Gotcha Babe!

I wanted to come and write to you about the things good and bad that have been happening lately and even my own short comings, but something else happened this weekend. I found myself almost back in the same place I was a year ago. My husband threatening to leave me again, accusing me again of seeking out other men again( more out of hope I sense so that he could move on), defending the other woman and so on. I have, to my surprise, been dealing with a great deal of suspicion, fear, anger, insult and so on. I know it's just a tactic of the enemy still, especially because New Year's day I met with our prayer group from church and we prayed over marriages. I know things were stirred up in the spirit world and I have to keep my ground, but there was so much grief in my heart that my husband still has this hardness of heart and attitude. It made me finally come to a place in my heart where I just let go. I wasn't letting go of God, but I was finally grieved to a point where all I could do was let my husband go into the Lords hands, because I know that sometimes we have to experience things on our own for us to finally see and understand things in life, and even see the grace of God. As I began to pray for the Lord to just strengthen me and direct my steps and provide for me and my children because I am not working right now and not sure what to do,( I know He will provide) He just began to knock away all the thoughts that were coming to my mind.

The Lord began to remind me of all the things that had been turned around this last year, all the interventions. It wasn't by no accident, even though it was all very painful. I have to look back and see that even within the last six months my husband had stated he was no longer leaving me, a few months later he stated he was no longer talking to the other woman, and he finally told me that right before Christmas he deleted the email account that had both of their names on it he used to communicate with her. The Lord has been answering my prayers step by step, whether or not my husband is being truthful I have to trust in the Lord. Even though my husband doesn't understand why he is being compelled to act on these things when it's not what he wanted to do, and he is still displaying a hardness of heart to the ways and truth of the Lord, and that's what's grieving to me, but that goes to show me that the Spirit of the Lord is powerful and working, and He is faithful to His word! ( EZEKIEl 36:27 I will put My Spirit within you and cause you to walk in My statutes, and you will keep My judgments and do them. I pray this over my husband) It's still hard dealing with all these feelings, even though I know my husband was being inspired by the enemy, because he still hasn't come to acknowledge his behavior as sin or that he has any feelings of love for me, but obviously God is still working in his heart and I just have to keep praying, not allowing myself to be complacent.

I honestly think the Lord wanted me to come to that place of truly "letting go and letting God." He began to fill me with the hope of His word again that He does have a plan and a hope and a future for my marriage. He began to put praise in my heart and reminded me that these behaviors manifesting in my husband are proof that God is working in him because the enemy is trying to discourage me to give up. I, being all wise to the tactics of the enemy, must use this to my advantage. These behaviors allowed me to see what areas I still need to pray over in my husbands heart because these things are not just going to go away. They will hide and resurface when you are not expecting it again. This is a New Year! The Lord showed me again He is just purging and renewing my marriage! I have to press on in prayer and I can rejoice!

Right then I went back to praying over my husband in the area of forgiveness(mostly him forgiving me, past hurts that he hasn't forgiven are allowing a strong hold in him and creating a hardness of heart), healing for the hardness of heart, and infidelity. All of these prayers include praying for conviction and repentance and may be found in the book The Power Of Prayer to Change Your Marriage- Stormie Omartian. As I began to pray the prayer regarding infidelity a very strong image of a little minion intruded my thoughts waving a sword at me. I thought Ooh...I must have touched on something. It really didn't like me praying that. I have prayed this prayer many times but things must be close to breaking off of my husband now I realize when things start attacking and images start manifesting. I have learned to understand and not push aside this images as just my own imaginations. God gave us imagination for a great purpose and one purpose is to communicate to us and let us see things in the spirit world.

As I began to praise the Lord for the breakthrough and tell Him I don't want just His power but His presence, and that I understood that the power is in His presence, and all I wanted or needed was in His presence, I could just feel His mighty presence in me and I could see an image of Him with His strong arm just knocking the dark clouds away from me from the right and then to the left. Light began to shine through to me. A song that I always sang to my son as a baby came into my heart. I could feel the Lord shout to me "I GOTCHA BABE!" My God! My God! My God! All that was in me just let go into His hands. I was and am so filled with the power of His love and presence.

He said it and He meant it...

Hebrews 13:5-6
.....for He [God] Himself has said, I will not in any way fail you nor give you up nor leave you without support. [I will] not, [I will] not, [I will] not in any degree leave you helpless nor forsake nor let [you] down (relax My hold on you)! [Assuredly not!]
6 So we take comfort and are encouraged and confidently and boldly say, The Lord is my Helper; I will not be seized with alarm [I will not fear or dread or be terrified]. What can man do to me?


I woke up and I could still feel His hope, His presence, just holding me..."I gotcha babe...I will not relax my hold on you. I got YOU babe." I realized I needed to study this spirit called infidelity and as I do so much of it makes sense to me, and all I want to do is love my husband even more and fight for him even more. I go to the park to pray and meditate over the stuff I am learning. As I am sitting on the boulder listening to the rush of the waterfall I feel the conviction of the Lord in my own heart regarding the traces of infidelity. When I prayed this prayer over my husband a couple of months ago I knew then I should apply it to myself but I thought I will later. I still liked the feeling of enticement and excitement of past memories, I told myself I could hold onto it for just a little while, I wanted to feel something other than the pain I was feeling now and I wanted something to hold onto to just in case....

Exclamation!!!! What was I thinking??? Obviously I wasn't. Seriously, how can I pray for its removal from my husband when it's still operating in me?? That's the point. Power is limited when you are acting with the same sin. That's why you have to truthfully examine yourself and see if you are lining up with God's word, especially if you are praying for someone else and want to see breakthrough in them. I felt extremely convicted in myself and sought the Lord to forgive me of the lingering sins of infidelity in myself and to forgive me for setting this thing up as a false god to worship in place of God Our Father and the Lord Jesus Christ. That is exactly what we do when we give place to sin and these deceptive enticing spirits that we do not rebuke or repent of. Really sheds some light on the true issue doesn't it? At this point the power and presence of the Lord rest even more heavily on me. I know He is glad, and I wonder if that little minion I saw was actually more worried about me coming to repentance and receiving more power in myself than he was of having to let go of my husband. Remember the necessity of an enemy?? (Ron Carpenter)

Honestly as I sat there just absorbing the Lords presence it was so strong and I just poured my heart out right there. I thought something was going to happen and I might end up freaking every one out at the park. Lol. Sometimes we are so afraid to press into the Lord. Afraid we aren't good enough, afraid we won't last being good enough, afraid that we won't get enough of Him and be left still feeling empty. I urge you to really press on this year letting those feelings go, push past them. It's not about us being good enough. Not even our own sins can keep us from the love of God. That is why He sent us Jesus. We don't have to worry about being good enough. In that moment when I just kept thinking how could I have done this? He wasn't judging me, He wasn't hating me, He wasn't telling me I was going to hell. No, He was acting like a loving Father at my knee telling me it's all going to be okay. Dry up those tears, smile. I know your sorry, now get up again. I gotcha babe. And like His bouncy little girl I sucked up the sniffles and put on a half smile and said okay daddy! I love you daddy!

And now I'm stronger. I walked over to another place at the pond. Now I'm ready to pray in the same way and offer the same love to my husband. I gotcha babe! I got your spirit, I got your back!!


To come...How does infidelity find its way into your heart and mind and what to do about it.

Praying for you....I Gotcha Babe!

Melodius..It's A Word In Your Heart!

Yesterday started out as a beautiful day of prayer. Of course when I reached that point of being in His presence and truly enjoying my time with the Lord, the phone starts ringing and people start knocking at the door, but not before the Lord got to make a deposit in my heart. Graham Cooke talked about how God has already put His word in our hearts. When you accept Jesus as your personal Savior He is already inside of you. We keep thinking He is on the outside and we keep trying to get Him to come in. We need to start off by acknowledging Jesus is already in us waiting to express Himself outward from within. Those are my descriptions. Graham says it much more eloquently. (The Art of Brilliantly Thinking)

My life coach last week when talking with my son, expressed the same understanding, explaining to him the difference between the soul and the spirit. Why we can have the Spirit of God in us but still operate in our flesh and have strongholds in our emotions. She stated that the Lord has written His word on our hearts. That's why even people that do not want to acknowledge there is a God still know right from wrong. His word says..

Jeremiah 31:33

“I will put my law in their minds
and write it on their hearts.
I will be their God,
and they will be my people."

Hebrews 10:16
"This is the new covenant I will make with my people on that day, says the LORD: I will put my laws in their hearts, and I will write them on their minds."

These are just a couple. The point is His word is already alive in the earth. It already rest in the hearts of man. We just need to speak it forth. As I dwelt on this concept, His word is already written on our hearts, it became so beautiful to me. I began to make it my prayer over my husband. I began to thank and praise the Lord that His word was already in my husband. That it would now begin to spring forth and produce good fruit. The Holy Spirit would begin to bring it to life in my husband and that he would begin to align with it, understand it, and hunger for it, move with it. At some point as I became joyous with my praise I began to see an image of God opening His mouth and His words just began to flow into my husbands opened mouth. It flowed like a music bar just filling him. His words looked like dancing music notes. It was so melodius. I don't even know if that is a real word, but His word was flowing like a melody into my husband. I became so excited and started praising and shouting "Yes Lord! Sing into my husband! Sing over my husband! Let him become your delight! Make him full of your joy!! Fill him with your word with your praise!" (so on) I knew the Lord was in my husband now.

I then began to pray my favorite prayers and declarations such as my husband is led by the Spirit and does not fulfill the lust of the flesh. He is drawn to the Lord by His unfailing loving kindness. He walks the path of righteousness. He is surrounded by the presence of God who is in relentless pursuit of him and overwhelmed with His love, and so on. I pulled out my The Power Of A Praying Wife book and began to pray over his fatherhood, emotions, and attitude. When finished there I began to praise the Lord with Psalm 100:4

"Enter His gates with thanksgiving and His courts with praise; give thanks to Him and praise His name."

I found myself going back to this verse saying, "Lord, I am thankful to him, and I praise his name."

Then I caught myself and said Lord I'm sorry I didn't mean to ...and He stopped me. He let me know it's okay to be thankful to my husband. It's okay to praise him. He knows I was not praising my husband as a means of worship. He wants us to have that kind of attitude towards our spouses, regardless of how they are acting.(That is the sacrifice of praise!) He wants us to come before Him rejoicing over our spouses. That is what puts a smile on His face and allows Him to move and change the atmosphere around our situations and in their hearts, as well as our own. It was a joyous time!

Remember even Sarah called Abraham lord, and it was not considered disrespectful to God. It was the highest form of respect. Respect leads to love.

Ephesians 5:22

"Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord."

How do you love the Lord?

I texted my husband, " I am thankful to you! I praise your name...Mr....!"
He didn't respond, but that's okay. This journey is about learning to love unconditionally and without expectations. I almost hate saying it because then I'm tested on it. But I am being tested and trained anyways. It's just so hard! lol It's okay because I am learning to trust in the Lord completely. Do you understand what that means??? It means a more deeper intimacy with God. It means a more powerful you. A you that is unafraid, NOT LACKING ANYTHING!! It's okay to sow seeds of love without expectation. It doesn't make you less of a person. God will not allow love to take away from you. You always reap what you sow. Trust HIM!!! It helps me to personally look back and acknowledge all the times my husband said I love you and I never responded with the same words. I showed him by doing things for him, but I rarely said I love you to him. Now I know how he felt and I am sorry. I would say I am regretful but I was delivered from all that as of yesterday. Yes, I got to put myself in the judgement seat. It was a good experience and one to write about in the next blog.

Bless your spouse.

Jeremiah 31:3

“I have loved you with an everlasting love;
I have drawn you with loving-kindness."

Thank you Lord for loving (spouse/child/friend name) and loving them with an everlasting love. Thank you for drawing (spouse/child/friend name) with your unfailing loving kindness.

And His promise to you my love..
Jeremiah 31

4 I will build you up again
and you will be rebuilt...
Again you will take up your tambourines
and go out to dance with the joyful.

5 Again you will plant vineyards...
the farmers will plant them and enjoy their fruit.

12 They will come and shout for joy on the heights of Zion;
they will rejoice in the bounty of the Lord—
the grain, the new wine and the oil,
the young of the flocks and herds. (your finances, substance)
They will be like a well-watered garden,
and they will sorrow no more. (personalize this. I will sorrow no more)
13 Then maidens will dance and be glad,
young men and old as well.
I will turn their mourning into gladness;
I will give them comfort and joy instead of sorrow.
14 I will satisfy the priests with abundance,
and my people will be filled with my bounty,”
declares the Lord.

16 This is what the Lord says:

“Restrain your voice from weeping
and your eyes from tears,
for your work will be rewarded,”
declares the Lord.
“They will return from the land of the enemy.
17 So there is hope for your future,” declares the Lord.
“Your children(spouse) will return to their own land."

I Won't Shrink Back

I have come to realize that everything I have gone through this last year was to make me bolder, more courageous, refined in His love and word. He knew what it would take to get me to press in and move to the level that He needed me to be at. I am stronger than I have ever been. I realize now that all my years of rejection have left me oweing no man! I now appreciate it and understand that by oweing no one I can give myself completely to my God not fearing what man will say to me, or what they will do to me, or if they turn from me. His faithfulness to me has kept me solely relying on Him alone and my gratefullness to Him makes me want to do what He wants me to do, say what He wants me to say, and go where He wants me to go. Holding nothing of myself back from Him. Amazing how He turns a situation around and makes it worthy of praise!

The Lord has brought precious people into my life to help me during this time and they will have their reward. I know I would not have made it this far this quickly without their help, but He still gets the praise. He's the one that blesses me and provides for me. He's the one that strengthens me and comforts me. He guides me and He goades me. No one can take credit for what He has done for me and therefore I am under no obligation to any man. He was buying my total freedom from man. Now I am free to be just His, used for His good purposes alone! What an honor! And all this time I was boo-hooing feeling sorry for myself. Why couldn't He have just said so?? Lol I guess He has time and time again, I just couldn't figure it out. I would for a short time or so, but I think I got it this time, only because my passion for Him and His word have grown. I knew when the time came I would not be afraid. At the beginning of this year I didn't think so. I didn't even think I could carry on this path anymore, but when push came to shove my heart proved my allegiance. My God! My God! I surrender to you!

Many years ago I had visions of Jesus taking me into places of total devastation helping people and bringing them to know the Lord Jesus. I never contracted the diseases that they had. I was always protected and taking care of. At one point we stopped and I looked to the Lord Jesus, of course I could not see His face in my vision, but I asked Him with a humble heart, " Lord why did you choose me? Why do I have this privilege?" He answered, " It's not because I don't have many to choose from, just few that are willing to make the sacrifice." I never really understood this because I know my failures and I know I've never made the sacrifice, He did.

This year I realize I have made the sacrifice. I made the sacrifice to stand and obey when I wanted to run. I made the sacrifice to speak and share when I was ridiculed for believing in His word and promises above my circumstances. I made the sacrifice to accept His strength when I fell to my knees and wanted to give up. I made the sacrifice to accept His peace and comfort when I was shaken with fear and anxiety. I made the sacrifice when I accepted His righteousness as my own and applied His authority in my life and ruled when all others didn't think I was worthy or holy enough. He has made it so easy for me and you to obtain the victory if you want it. That is why I have what I have and I won't apologize, I won't be shamed by man. I know what HE has given to me. I know what HE has spoken to me. Through His word and Spirit, through the visions I have recieved, the prophecies spoken over me, and the answered prayers He brings forth to me. I know my purpose and that's what gives me confidence in what His will is for me.

He knows what I will do with all that He has given me. I will boast of Him. I will stand on the rooftops and shout praise to Him. I will be the mouthpiece when He wants to speak. I will be the arms when He wants to lend and comfort with love. I will be bold and laugh at the wicked and the enemy. I will be the warrior He uses to crush the enemy under His feet. I will give ALL that He has given me.

James 1:2-5
2 Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters,[a] whenever you face trials of many kinds, 3 because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. 4 Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything. 5 If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you.

James 1:12
12 Blessed is the one who perseveres under trial because, having stood the test, that person will receive the crown of life that the Lord has promised to those who love him.

James 1:22
22 Do not merely listen to the word, and so deceive yourselves. Do what it says. 23 Anyone who listens to the word but does not do what it says is like someone who looks at his face in a mirror 24 and, after looking at himself, goes away and immediately forgets what he looks like. 25 But whoever looks intently into the perfect law that gives freedom, and continues in it—not forgetting what they have heard, but doing it—they will be blessed in what they do.


Hebrews 10:35-38

35 So do not throw away your confidence; it will be richly rewarded.

36 You need to persevere so that when you have done the will of God, you will receive what he has promised. 37 For,“In just a little while, He who is coming will come and will not delay.”

38 “But my righteous one will live by faith.
And I take no pleasure
in the one who shrinks back.”


That is why I know He is pleased with me. I don't shrink back. That's why I have ALL that I ask for. I don't shrink back. I press in until I have ALL that He says I have. This is why I don't shrink back....that my faith be proven and pleasing to the one I love!

1 Peter 1:6-9
6 In all this you greatly rejoice, though now for a little while you may have had to suffer grief in all kinds of trials. 7 These have come so that the proven genuineness of your faith—of greater worth than gold, which perishes even though refined by fire—may result in praise, glory and honor when Jesus Christ is revealed. 8 Though you have not seen Him, you love Him; and even though you do not see Him now, you believe in Him and are filled with an inexpressible and glorious joy, 9 for you are receiving the end result of your faith, the salvation of your souls.

I had a vision right before Thanksgiving. I was upset in regards to my husband innocently being a little flirtatious with someone, but after all that we have been through this last year it wasn't without reason. He used a pet name that he uses with me and I became possessive over it. When it's all you got, you embrace it! A part of me wanted to know if I was in the wrong and the other part wanted the enemy crushed for good! I said Lord your word says you crushed the enemy under your foot, I want him crushed! Something has a hold on my faith in this area and I want it crushed!! I kept repeating this pressing in letting it build my faith until I began to see an image of Jesus wrestling with a dragon. Soon the dragon was chained and held back. The Lord then spoke to me and said," is that enough?" I said, "no!" The Lord said, " But he is chained up away from you." I said, "No Lord, you said you crushed the head of the enemy and put him under foot. I want his head crushed!! I do not want to go through this again!" Then I saw a big lizard like a komodo dragon chained up. The Lord then asked, "Is this enough?" I said, " No Lord, it could grow back into the dragon. I don't want it coming back. I want it's head crushed! Crush it's head!!" Then I saw a cute little and innocent looking lizard in the palm of the Lord's hand. He asked, " and what about now?" I could not see His face, but I could see Him in all His grandeur with this little creature in the palm of His hand, and I thought but it's so cute and little, and innocent. But I still knew, it could grow back into the dragon and I am playing for keeps. I want to win and not lose, so I said to the Lord, " crush it's head." At this point the image became almost like a cartoon as the Lord took just His fingertip and squashed the head of lizard. It was kind of hilarious, but I knew in my spirit that is what the Lord was looking for. I felt a release of my faith, something break in the spirit. He wanted me to go all the way. He wanted me to see the enemy not as a dragon but as something so minoot compared to God. He wanted me to see how sin can start out as something so small and seeming so innocent, but needs to be crushed before it can grow into the dragon, and be willing to still crush it's head. I have learned it's best not to play with it (sin or the enemy) at all or let yourself be enticed by it even just a little bit. It's much easier to crush it when it's little. Yes, I believe the Lord was pleased with me after this. When I came home things were a lot better with my husband and I am continuing to press in. I won't shrink back.

Psalm 18:32
It is God who arms me with strength, and makes my way perfect. He makes my feet like the feet of deer, and sets me on high places. He teaches my hands to make war, so that my arms can bend a bow of bronze … I have pursued my enemies and overtaken them; neither did I turn back again till they were destroyed, I have wounded them, so that they were not able to rise; they have fallen under my feet. For You have armed me with strength for the battle; you have subdued under me those who rose up against me.”

Genesis 3:15
"..and He will crush your head" NIV

Romans 16:20
The God of peace will soon crush Satan under your feet.
The grace of our Lord Jesus be with you.

When A Stander Says MERRY CHRISTMAS!

M - Marriage was created and ordained by God. It is a covenant between you, your spouse and God.
E - Jesus Christ was born to save the lost and give them eternal life.
R - Your Lord wants to restore, rebuild and resurrect your hurting or dead marriage for God to get all the glory, honor and praise.
R - Let God become your refuge and your rock who will rescue your beloved spouse from the enemy’s camp.
Y - You cannot change your spouse's heart, but God can.

C - Christ was born in a manger and died on the cross at Calvary for you, your spouse and your family's sins.
H - The Holy Spirit wants to be your Comforter, Counselor, Provider and Friend every day of your life and especially right now.
R - Resist the enemy. Resist giving up on your husband or wife as you stand with God for marriage restoration.
I - Ignore all the tricks, schemes and circumstances that come from the enemy, Satan. Keep your eyes on your Lord Jesus every day.
S - Stand firm on the promises of God. He will never fail you!
T - Trust in the Lord for your life and your marriage restoration. His timetable will be perfect!
M - When you married your spouse, never forget your wedding vows. You are no longer two, but one flesh with a covenant with God.
A - Do not allow anger, adultery or alcohol or any other sins of the flesh to destroy your marriage. Pray for the Lord to transform you and your spouse's heart completely.
S - Scriptures -God's Holy Word. Start reading and memorizing God's Word to change you and then transform your spouse's hardened heart.
Please continue to be faithful and pray for your beloved spouse and all prodigal spouses and children. Ask the Lord today to bless you and your family during the Christmas holidays with a special gift from Him. Start thanking the Lord every day for what He is doing on the other side of your mountain.
Be blessed,

Charlyne Steinkamp
Rejoice Marriage Ministries, Inc.
rejoiceministries.org

There Is No Other

Im still bouncing around tonight on the inside. I just keep getting revelation after revelation! I love it when God speaks to my spirit! I wish He would speak directly to me about the things Ive been asking for a word on, but He would rather work on laying brick for my new foundation. I comply with reason because I know it is in my best interest and the best interest of others that I might have to share with.

First let me back track a little. I wrote in my last blog Starting to "Get It" about transitioning into praise regarding your husband. I forgot to mention an important part. I knew I was forgetting something, but couldn't remember at the time what I had wanted to share with you. That particular evening after I progressed into an atmosphere of praise I began to tell the Lord that I knew and could feel there was still something holding on to my husband. It wasn't the same evil spirit that I had been dealing with directly, it was something else, probably more to do with the soulish realm, the part of his will. Something holding on, something of influence not wanting to let go. I know it has to let go, why isn't it breaking? At that point the Lord started walking me back through the steps. He asked me, "what did you do to get rid of the other one?" Well, I was just praising you and proclaiming that you were God, and there is no other; You are God; and there is none like you. That Your purpose will stand, and you will do all that you please. Isaiah 46. " And before that?" I commanded that at the name of Jesus it (the enemy and my husband) had to bow and confess that Jesus Christ is Lord and Savior! Oh ya! That's it! Ha...The enemy hates that verse and it hates hearing the blood of Jesus applied. It's the sword that pierces it and it flees every time! So I went into command mode and started throwing out some karate chops. Take that spirit! Ha..how does that one feel? Bow! Ya! You've got to bow and confess that JESUS is Lord and Savior! In between I'm giving thanks to the Lord and we had a grand ol time. Im not making light of the situation. You have to get bold! You have to understand it truly pleases God to see you using and applying the weapons of warfare that He has given us. We can do it joyfully! That's what He wants! To see His sacrifice was not in vain. Make the enemy regret coming around messing with you and what is yours. Make sure he thinks twice before coming back around again. Remember the covenant Deuteronomy 28:7 “The LORD will cause your enemies who rise against you to be defeated before you. They shall come out against you one way and flee before you seven ways." This is part of the blood covenant God Himself has given to His children. When this battle first began, this was one of the first verses I came out swinging with. I am a woman of covenant. I am a woman of authority and I will see my enemies flee before me in seven ways!

Which leads me to today. Kind of a different topic but same principal. Yesterday my son attended a deliverance meeting with my life coach where he could go back through the generation and confess the iniquities of his parents and ancestors and release or break all the generational curses. My son looked at the list of sins that we were aware of and proclaimed " we did all that?" Yes, it's sad isn't it? " That's a lot." Yes it is, which is why the blessing of the Lord is hindered and each generation is worse than the one before, and each generation has a harder time in life, because no one is repenting.

Exodus 34:7

7 I lavish unfailing love to a thousand generations.
I forgive iniquity, rebellion, and sin.
But I do not excuse the guilty.
I lay the sins of the parents upon their children and grandchildren;
the entire family is affected—
even children in the third and fourth generations.”

2 Chronicles 7:14

14 if my people, who are called by my name, will humble themselves and pray and seek my face and turn from their wicked ways, then will I hear from heaven and will forgive their sin and will heal their land.


So as I told you before, the Lord promised me now that " The oppressor will come to an end, and destruction will cease; the aggressor will vanish from the land (my land)." Isaiah 16:4 That is His purpose for the deliverance of our family right now. That includes no more divorce, no more destruction of any kind, including poverty or sickness. One of the promises and verses that is proclaimed during the deliverance process is that " ...A curse without cause shall not alight." Proverbs 26:2. This verse is coming up in a lot of lessons right now, so I know it is God moving to get everyone this revelation. For me, I had to really think about it and dwell on what it meant. First thing waking up this morning the Holy Spirit kept speaking this verse to my spirit. All morning long it pressed upon my mind and heart. I kind of pushed it aside and went shopping hoping to find some really good sales because we are really short on cash without me working right now, and I currently have no presents for my children. But we are at peace. If this is what Christmas is to be this year we are joyful. We held hands in prayer in front of the Christmas tree the other night just thanking the Lord that we have a roof over our heads, we have food, clothes, and electric. We have two nice vehicles and all the bills are paid. The greater gift is that my husband is still in the home. My children still have their dad. We have seen a mighty move of God this year in our lives, we have seen His faithfulness and love. We are more than satisfied. Again I share this with you because someone else needs to know the truth that they are not alone in their experience. The Lord has provided for us to spend Christmas with some of our family so my children will still get to enjoy gifts and others have already taken them shopping or sent gifts, they are not without. Just keep in mind, this may be the last Christmas we all get to experience in the this traditional manner, which is another reason I am trying to remain humble. Especially for us Christians, also another topic we will discuss soon. But back to this morning; I was getting kind of agitated. I said, Lord! This is not right! You promised me I would have no more seasons of lack! I've given to the church, I gave to my friends that needed help recently and I can't even provide a single gift to my children. Im not asking for much. I just wanted a jacket for me and my son, a gift or two for the kids, from us." ...A curse without cause shall not alight." Proverbs 26:2. Came to my spirit again. Okay Lord. You have been bringing this verse to my spirit all morning. Obviously there is something in it. What do you want me to do with it? "Apply it, press into it," He says.

" ...A curse without cause shall not alight." Proverbs 26:2. What does that mean? It means a curse without a legal claim cannot come to pass. What removes the legal right or claim to a curse? The blood of Jesus!! He has washed all our sins away. He has washed or removed all legal claims or (as I love) historical rights to any curse. Hence, the need to pray the prayer of forgiveness regarding the past sins of all our fathers and forefathers and ancestors. We call it the prayer of the Inquities of the Father, and another one is the Breaking of Curses, removing the legal right and historical claims. Which is why I love the verse Nehemiah 2:20

20 I answered them by saying, “The God of heaven will give us success. We his servants will start rebuilding, but as for you, you have no share in Jerusalem or any claim or historic right to it.”

When I first saw the above verse posted on a blog Spiritually Unequal Marriage, I snatched it up quickly and made it my own...I thank you Lord for giving me success in the rebuilding of my marriage and family! Thank you for giving the enemy no share! No claim! No historic right to my marriage!!! In The Name of Jesus! Hallelujah!

I pressed into the verse Proverbs 26:2 by thanking the Lord Jesus for washing away our sins leaving nothing for the curse to hold onto. I reminded Him of the prayers both my son and I had prayed asking for the forgiveness of the sins of our forefathers so that now there was NO LEGAL CLAIM, NO HISTORIC RIGHT for any curse to alight (or hold onto) . I put the blood of Jesus between us and the curse, between my marriage and the curse of divorce, etc. I put the blood of Jesus between my finances and the curse of poverty! Poverty is not God's will! Just so you know. :) But again the Lord then took me back to;

Philippians 2:10-11
10 that at the name of Jesus every knee should bow,
in heaven and on earth and under the earth,
11 and every tongue confess that Jesus Christ is Lord,
to the glory of God the Father.

OH YA! You know what I did here. I called curse out by name and commanded it to bow!
Curse, you must bow and confess that Jesus IS Lord and Savior!!

Because my faith muscle has been exercised in this area over this last year it didn't take much for me to feel it break. NOW faith was in operation. God is good! I can't wait to see what comes about because of our new found deliverance. Total Restoration!

3 John 1

2 Beloved, I wish above all things that you may prosper and be in health, even as your soul prospers.

Romans 14:11

“‘As surely as I live,’ says the Lord,
‘every knee will bow before me;
every tongue will confess to God.'

Isaiah 45:21-23

For there is no other God but me,
a righteous God and Savior.
There is none but me.
22 Let all the world look to me for salvation!
For I am God; there is no other.
23 I have sworn by my own name;
I have spoken the truth,
and I will never go back on my word:
Every knee will bend to me,
and every tongue will confess allegiance to me.”

I Am Starting To "Get It"

I meant to write about this a few days ago but I have been so busy and always wondering if writing these blogs is the right thing to do. Besides the things going on in the relationship realm I was also let go from my job for the first time ever in October and been kind of struggling in that area too, but the Lord has been providing. Even more now I have felt the need to be completely honest about myself and my struggles because it IS helping someone else. Someone else is going through similar stuff, someone else has felt, thought, or acted the same way. The difference is how we deal with it. Some of us turn to the Lord and keep pressing in until we have the victory. We need to share with others how it is done. Dr Juanita Bynaum said you can't pick up someone else if you have never fallen yourself. So true! Life is a journey of lessons! I think I am realizing now what those lessons are to be about. These lessons are not about developing yourself into the perfect person or having the perfect American dream. There is no such thing as perfection in our lifetime. Lol. This really has helped me to relax...a little. :) Our main goal is to learn to develop a relationship with Jesus and prove that God really is who He says He is, and that His word is true. How can that happen if we never fall? He has to be the one to pick us up so we can go and shout and proclaim "Look what the Lord has done for me!!" His power is perfected in our weakness. If you were strong all the time you would never see the real power of God. I can honestly say now I would not want that to happen. Seeing the real power of God is a tremendous honor. He is so amazing and He does things that just boggle your mind. In a crazy way you look back and almost wish to go through it again just to see His hand again. I feel for those people who have not yet understood the power in waiting on the Lord, allowing the test and trial to work on their character. They can't look forward with anticipation of the next good thing the Lord is going to do, and they can't look back without feeling the paining sting of every hurtful memory. It doesn't have to hurt anymore. It is a daily step by step walk in progress. Learning and trusting the Lord everyday. Something I realized from my dad a few days ago, it's okay to go at your own pace, the important thing is if you fall down that you get back up and you take another step. You keep reaching for the Lord.

Another lesson I'm learning during this journey is dealing with those negative thoughts and emotions. My understanding is increasing everyday. God wants us to have the mind of Christ, that includes how and what we think about others. The other day thoughts of my husbands actions came to mind and I started to think of him in not so good of terms. I started to get angry as I began to dwell on them I then stopped myself. I know this is a tactic of the enemy now to persuade me to open those doors. I realized later after thoughts came to mind from the lessons of Grahame Cooke talking about one's identity and thinking from the RIGHT starting place (The Art of Brilliantly Thinking), tucking them away isn't necessarily the right thing to do either. We have to act on them, do what God's says to do with them or they will keep coming back. So first, I went to the Lord and repented. Lord, you said to cast down EVERY thought that tries to exalt against the true knowledge of God. Please forgive me of those things I was thinking towards my husband. Those thoughts I was thinking about him were not true, those are not YOUR thoughts. That is not how YOU see him. That is not his TRUE identity in You. (This is where you start confessing God's word over your spouse and speak those things that are not, as though they are, so God can begin to line things up). You said he is a new creation in You. He has put off the old corrupted man and is living as a new man in Christ. He is bound to the mind of Christ and the purposes of Your heart. You have given him a new identity, one that honors you, for he is becoming the mirror image of Christ from glory to glory. (You just keep speaking God's word over him and this is where you begin to transition into praise. Thank the Lord for the husband you see him as and for the Lords goodness. Think and praise the Lord for all His good benefits and all the things you are believing Him for. As you keep going in praise you suddenly find yourself in mountain moving worship of the Lord God Almighty!)

This is what is pleasing to the Lord. This is where change occurs because of obedience and praise to the Lord. I can finally say I am starting to "get it".

Love Me To and Fro

Tonight he came home from work. I kissed him good morning. :) I made him a plate of dinner and he sat in his usual spot at the computer. I wished for a hug, for him to hold me just for a few moments but I let it go. I'm learning to let go, trusting that the Lord is working in him even though I can't see Him molding him and aligning things up in him. And it's okay tonight. I feel the strength of the Lord generating from His love. He told me again tonight He loved me in His word. "For the eyes of the LORD run to and fro throughout the whole earth, to shew himself strong in the behalf of them whose heart is perfect toward him." 2 Chronicles 16:9. It was this time last year my husband started acting weird towards me. Accusing me of talking to other men, coming home talking about how another woman didn't want him, and when asked later if he was talking to another woman he denied it. When asked what was wrong, because a wife of 17 yrs you know when something is different in your man even though he isn't talking, and his response was "nothing". So you ask again because you know better and he says "nothing". Then you state I know something is and his response is "That's it! I'm leaving! I don't know when, but I'm leaving!" Of course you are left bewildered and frustrated and wondering what did you do wrong even though deep down you know it's not you, just some kind of excuse for his own short comings, it still breaks you down. It was this time last year he started talking about a girl that was let go from his work. "For the eyes of the LORD run to and fro throughout the whole earth, to shew himself strong in the behalf of them whose heart is perfect toward him." 2 Chronicles 16:9. My loving God was keeping His promise, His covenant to me, a daughter of covenant. I didn't know what was going on but God did. His eyes were going to fro because He loved me. He had already removed her from my husbands presence. A month later I found out what was going on and the Lord answered my prayer and let it be revealed to me where my husband met her. She was the one he had talked about that was let go from work and supposedly no one knew quite why. The first thought that came to my mind was this verse "For the eyes of the LORD run to and fro throughout the whole earth, to shew himself strong in the behalf of them whose heart is perfect toward him." 2 Chronicles 16:9. During the later months when I was scared and asking the Lord to remove her He reminded me that He already did and not to be afraid because He was in control. The Lord loved me. He kept His word to me. So tonight I love Him all the more. Wanting to give more. I spent time this morning fasting and praying for my husband. Then I started praising the Lord because I know He has good purposes for our marriage. He has brought us this far. I started to declare His word in faith, then I got deeper into worship of Him. I struggled with trust this week in regards to my husband. I finally broke down one day and said Lord this is driving me mentally crazy! I can't go on like this! I know I'm not trusting you, please help me to get my eyes off of him and back on YOU. So this morning I could worship the Lord in love and tell Him because of His word I can trust my husband because I am trusting YOU! I am trusting You to put the love, honor, faithfulness, and integrity in my husband that You purposed. I trust the Holy Spirit is working to deliver my husband and bring truth and change to his heart. I trust You Lord that You will do all that You said You will do! I trust in your love for me! I love You Lord Jesus!

Later my neighbor asked me to come over. It's the first time we have had a real talk. She was telling me about her relationship and trying to figure out what to do. As I began to share with her from my heart she started crying. She exclaimed, " This is amazing! I saw you! I saw what you were going through at the beginning of the year. ( Yes I was kind of puzzled at this point). I saw how devastated you were and how brokenhearted you were and now you are sitting here witnessing to me! How can you sit here smiling and talking about love with all that you have been going through?? Never-mind I know, it's God! But how? It doesn't make sense! You are an amazing woman!" In my mind I'm thinking ahhh..this is what it's all about. This is the testimony God wants people to see. It has nothing to do with me or my words. She personally saw what I was going through and because I chose to stick things out and obey God in His way, it was a testimony that spoke louder than anything that I could have said. My actions and words lined up with Gods word, and caused her to be able to see the truth in it. Of course I could not take any of the credit. I've wronged my husband in the past. So I shared with her all that the Lord had brought me through and what His word says about love. It isn't going to be easy, but if you persevere in His promises you get what you are asking and believing for. She ask, "but what do you do when your needs are not being met?" My response is you go to the Lord and trust Him to meet all your needs. Seek Him for fulfillment first, take your expectations to Him, not your man, and pray for your significant other, then the Lord will move in him. She sees me smiling, talking with hope and love, and now she is motivated to do the same. Now I'm understanding more of His ways. He could have left me by the wayside when I sinned but He didn't. He loved me unconditionally...He loved me in this... "For the eyes of the LORD run to and fro throughout the whole earth, to shew himself strong in the behalf of them whose heart is perfect toward him." 2 Chronicles 16:9. He could have ignored my prayers and let my husband wander off with the other woman but He didn't. He forgave me of my sins and helped me to do the same for my husband, because I trusted in His love for me.

Tonight another friend made a comment. How do you ever trust again when something like that happens? You can't, and if there isn't any trust, how can you have a relationship? You can't. She's right. I thought back to this morning and I thought God, I am so glad I have you, I can trust in YOU. I trust you and I love you. I trust you are rebuilding my marriage from the ground up. You are laying a new foundation. You are rebuilding that which was devastated and destroyed. You are fortifying and inhabiting that which was lying in ruins. Ezekiel 36:26. Yup, you can't rebuild on the old stuff, that's why God is in the business of renewal. I am all His. And if tomorrow I find everything has crumbled I will keep loving and trusting in Him. In the meantime I trust He is restoring love in my husbands heart for me. One day he will be affectionate towards me. He will hold me. Why? Because God is working in his heart to be a man that loves me they way Jesus loves the church. I declare that my husband loves me with the love that Jesus loves me with. A love that is faithful, unconditional, a love that is filled with integrity and honor, and a love that is self sacrificing. I know God will put good treasures in my husbands heart for me and our children. I can rest in the Lords love tonight, placing all my expectations on Him and not my husband, because Jesus loves me and is working things out in my husband for me. Yes..Yes..Yes... "For the eyes of the LORD run to and fro throughout the whole earth, to shew himself strong in the behalf of them whose heart is perfect toward him." 2 Chronicles 16:9.